I think a side issue here is that, fairly enough, many feel there has not been enough evidence THAT WE HAVE SEEN that would lead to a conclusion that Terri is guilty of anything. Because of that, many feel Terri is being badly treated by the media and also by Kaine and Desiree. That is fair enough, but only, ONLY if one is certain that LE and Kaine and Desiree know NOTHING more than we do.
So a lot depends on whether we believe Kaine and Desiree have received any more information than the general public.
If that's the case,if we are all just EQUAL in knowledge of the evidence... I agree...if all WE KNOW is ALL THEY know.
But, if we believe that their status has grieving parents (and Tony as fellow LE) has made them a few steps above us in information and evidence sharing...then, criticizing them is unfair and unwarranted. If they know more and are speaking from knowledge WE DON'T Have...who are we to judge in our ignorance of that evidence?
So it really comes down to whether one believes we are EQUAL in knowledge of this entire case as the grieving parents of the actual VICTIM ...or, as amateur sleuthers on the Internet forum...maybe not so much.
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First of all, KH & DY should not be equal with LE in terms of what they know. If they are, there's something very very rotten in Denmark.
And we don't know how much they really know, do we? All we know for sure that LE has told KH is that there was an alleged murder for hire plot. Alleged. (Nor charges to date.) All the rest is KH & DY personal opinion, and their unsubstantiated statements--as far as we know.
In fact, LE began to back away from KH & DY's statements, and at one point even issued an official statement that the information in one of the KH/DY press conferences did *not* come from LE.
So, basically, we don't really know how much of what KH/DY say is related to anything at all that LE has told them, and how much is just personal stuff. Therefore, it's fair to hold their public pronouncements up for analysis, for that reason as well as many others.
As far as Tony Young--he's already interjected himself into the case, early on, and then used that to contribute to the "smear Terri" approach to PR. He should not have done either of those things. And if he is involved in, or gaining more information than any member of any non-LE victim family would do, then LE has some huge huge ethical problems. Tony's status as a cop in another jurisdiction does not give him entre' into a case involving his family.
Bottom line: people can only listen to two parents using up major media time only to slam one other person for so long before they come up with "been there, done that" not listening any more. KH & DY could have used some media time much better. And saying that is *not* attacking them. It's a simple opinion (also based on years of experience) that they could have done something better. And, let us remember--who among us could not have done things better at certain points? Hey, I have so many "could have done it better" points--and hence, have had so many opportunities to learn how to do it better. Thanks to people letting me know.
In the public eye, people make evaluations and judgments based on what they know at that time, filtered through their own experience, education, personal feelings, and how information is presented to them. So how KH & DY present information in public is powerful. JMO
And if we are not to discuss and express opinions because we don't know everything LE does, because we're not equal with that detective on the street who just came from the team meeting, then what's the purpose of WS? We're here to discuss, knowing that we aren't on the LE team on each case. And we'll never be "equal" with their day-by-day knowledge.
But that doesn't mean that we, being humans, don't draw conclusions from what we do know. Later on, we'll all find out which of our conclusions were flawed at the time we made them. We'll also find out more about all the people involved in this case--hopefully.
Most of all, we need to find out more about where Kyron is and what happened. So I think that dialogue about all aspects, and everyone involved, is a good thing, because I sure want to know what happened to little Kyron. And ultimately, I want someone, whoever, punished. Along with anyone who harmed him before that day.