I’m not entirely sure why this thread has been hijacked by discussions about father-daughter and father-son relationships, but I just want to add my two cents on the matter. I’ve said this many, many, many threads ago, but my boyfriend and I are the same age as BL and GP and neither of us care(d) about what our parents thought of our relationship or our choice in partners. In fact, I didn’t even tell my parents I was dating him until 3-4 months into our relationship. We’ve been together almost 4 years now about both of our parents are incredibly supportive, but that doesn’t mean they don’t sometimes try and give us unsolicited advice. IMO all of the debate over the dynamic between GP’s dad and BL is irrelevant to what was happening between GP and BL. On top of that, I personally find some of the comments on this thread about how GP bears some responsibility for not apologizing for things her father may have said to BL to be couched in thinly-veiled misogyny—the bottom line is that both of them were adults. GP wasn’t responsible for apologizing for things outside of her control, and to suggest that she was seems like victim-blaming to me, MOO.
