missdiva, your question is one that bothers me as well. there are photos of casey breastfeeding caylee. as a breastfeeding mom, i don't even *begin* to understand the pathway from making an obviously nurturing choice to murder. i too have wondered so many times if this could have been an accident and she was just too sociopathic to even begin to understand how to deal with it appropriately.
remember that we have never really seen her in a psychotic rage. many people who met my dad believed he was the kindest, sweetest, most charming man, and probably believed he was a great parent. but he saved those rages for us. i guess if you're a rageful narcissist, it's easy to bully your child because they have no choice but to love you anyway. casey reminds me a lot like my dad, and i just believe we can't judge her as being a loving mom incapable of premeditated murder simply because she's a mom with tons of pictures of a happy caylee. my dad loved us, bought us everything we could possibly want, and we have so many happy family pictures... many people had no idea, would've never suspected it. just because she seems like one of those people you wouldn't suspect doesn't mean she isn't capable of all kinds of terrible things out of the eyes of her community.
the heart sticker over the duct tape is the hardest for me to stomach. that is flat-out sinister.
my opinion is that casey had a hard time bonding w/caylee from the beginning. she didn't announce the pregnancy till it was nearly over (although at 7 months it is easy to feel that pregnancy will NEVER be over... lol). she was not happy about caylee being handed to cindy after the birth or "mom"-ing her at a birthday party. i find it very likely that she, as a sociopath unable to bond, blamed her mother for this lack of a bond, one that her mother makes clear she has with her children.
i don't think she really figured out wtf to do with the pregnancy and the baby, and right after having a baby life kind of just... HAPPENS. you realize how little control you have, and often you spend the entire day just taking care of baby's needs and trying to keep up with your own. caylee as a baby must have been very rewarding and fun once she started smiling - like a baby doll to casey, whose mom was there for all the difficult times completely prepared to give the child her love, time, and energy. and she was a trophy, and people complimented her parenting skills, marveled/sympathized with the young single mom trying so hard, etc.
but then i think the rollercoaster of new mom-hood kinda slowed and the ways in which she had folded caylee into her life were no longer as easy to manage. she turned from this adorable trophy baby into a walking, talking kid who just GOT IN THE WAY. and almost-3 is not an easy age. (even those of us who are bonded VERY well with their children & are terrific parents can feel driven up the wall at that age. :innocent
they give you way more attitude. they have their own ideas and plans and don't necessarily like yours. they're harder to distract because they remember things more easily. they figure out what your buttons are and push them because they are learning how to test boundaries, and the best way to test limits is to push them repeatedly. they are just discovering emotion & how to express emotions and are extremely melodramatic. even the most amazing parents i've known have difficulty with the toddler stage. they can be a lot more trying at that age, and you need a lot of love and patience to help guide them through it.
since most of us are normal people with the ability to bond, we're able to get through the difficult times and get back to the rewarding times, hopefully teaching our children lessons about safely expressing emotions and how to communicate with the people around them. but for casey, i think caylee stopped being all cute and cuddly, she started becoming more and more of a problem and needed more advanced parenting beyond feed/change/put to bed, and casey really didn't find it rewarding or worth her time anymore. it was getting in the way of the life she wanted. and it wasn't worth it to her to cede guardianship to her mother and basically say "you won, you were right, here she is."
it is hard to believe that anyone could be like that, especially a mother killing her child that at some point you want to believe she loved and cherished, somehow. but unfortunately people are like that. for casey, people's lives aren't meaningful to her except for what they provide for her. she thinks that she's bad-
enough to cover up the murder of her child she assumed no one else really cares about since she didn't. IMO even now she has this demeanor like "WHY are you guys still ON this? i am so over this already!"
I can clearly see that many of us find it difficult, if not impossible, to believe in pure evil. Susan Smith surely loved her children at one time. Something happened that made their lives less valuable than hers. Maybe she never loved them and "played" at being a good mommy. IDK, but evil does exist. It is so hard to believe that mothers can be unloving. That narcissists exist on this level of sociapathy is pretty frightening. I don't believe that sociopaths are unable to love, because I have watched the "Iceman" documentaries where he describes the horrific things he did to people as a mob hit man.......I mean the most horrific stuff I've ever heard of.........and yet he loved his children very much. So crazy is just crazy and sometimes we simply can't understand it.
I'm leaning really hard toward intentional on this one now..............I've run out of excuses or logical, heck, even illogical explanations for ICA...........
ITA with this.
I keep hearing Shirley P's words, (Cindy's mother). She said she believed that Casey hated Cindy more than she loved caylee. 
My hubby's parents were very active in my son's life and I thanked God every day that they loved him so much. There should NEVER be jealousy between a mom, sibling or in laws. It's love in the purest form. 
I totally disagree with my DH, but that's what has made our marriage so strong. I don't believe in the DP & he does. Notice in my siggy, my brother? He wants to be the one to give his murderer the injection and I respect his feelings. After all, we literally raised my baby bro. He would rather be with us than Mom & Dad. Oh the memories we made though. 
