I think I'm beginning to get the picture. According to Bob's daughters, PB, RB, JUM and maybe her husband JeM and son AH;
They cannot discuss the time Bob disappeared or the events of that day (including with authorities, for some of them) because they have to let the authorities do their job. Ditto searches and vigils.
They cannot give Mrs Harrod any of Bob's money to help her because their hands are tied, but they can fight her tooth and nail in the courts, using Bob's money.
They cannot discuss their father's private and personal matters at all, because he always kept them private. But they can post all over the web about his eating, friendship, and spending habits, sparing no detail and no scorn.
They cannot discuss the settlement of the hundreds of thousand of dollars of debt Bob's grandson owed to Bob's estate, because it is a private agreement. But they can (and have) provided full details on the web of Mrs Harrod's income, and her living arrangements. Even how often she leaves Bob's house.
Daughters have not revealed their own fees they take as co-conservators of Bob's estate, or what legal fees they have paid.
Although their father was a very private person, daughter JuM (married to son-in-law who was working in the house the day Bob disappeared) felt completely free to let herself into his house and change his bedsheets. Later, she and her sisters felt completely free to come into his house and take items ranging from the teacups, to the hangings on the wall and a painting of Bob's beloved little dog. And the sheets Jum put on the freshly-made bed, the day after Bob disappeared.
