Gene Hackman dead at 95: Iconic actor and wife, 63, are found dead with their dog at Santa Fe home. #3

[NuttMegg]

I had to tell my Mum who has dementia that my Sister had died. Her death was sudden and traumatic. She lived a good distance away so my Mum wouldn't have regular visits. I thought about not telling her but the burden of such a secret was too much for me. It also felt like i was deceiving my Mum in the worst way. I told her but was frugal with the cause of death and she reacted as you would expect. Devastated, crying, asking questions. She forgot quite quickly and i will never tell her again. It is too cruel reminding those with dementia of such sad events as they react just the same each time as if first they knew of it. The Alzheimer's society in the UK suggest using diversion techniques if they mention the loved one. For example, i used to have an elderly neighbour with dementia and some nights to give his family a break, i would cook his evening meal. Once he got upset I hadn't made a meal for his wife who had died a few years before. Instead of reminding him she was dead, I started talking about the apple pie she would make me every sunday. He then joined in talking about her baking. Crisis averted. Sorry to digress but it a subject close to my heart.

Thank you, I could have written that myself. Yes to diversion.

 

[Cardgame]

Some people always seem to hope for the worst possible scenario.
I'm hoping that the causes of death will be announced, and that they are natural and/or accidental.
I've thought from the start that Betsy probably died suddenly and unexpectedly of a natural cause, and that Gene fell and couldn't get up without help. These things happen every day, but it's not so often that a sudden death indirectly leads to another.

I can understand why it seems that way, but speaking only for myself, I think it's a misunderstanding to say anyone is 'hoping for the worst'.

Bad things happen in this world. And they happen alot to elderly vulnerable people.

The police know this, which is why they are considering all the options and haven't closed the case at the face value of what they found at the scene, but are investigating further.

My desire is that bad people don't get away with doing bad things.

I'm glad that an investigation is being done, in order to rule out the worst possible scenario.

Certainly not because I'm hoping for it.

To be honest, it's hard to know what to 'hope for' in this case, because all the possibilities are horrifying.

 

[#JUSTICE4WILDER]

Sante Fe police will have a press conference at 2:30pm CST todayhttps://www.youtube.com/live/5eYVs9iFySo?si=i1v44Le8ZY0EL-Fo

 

[ASipowicz]

How did she know the mother had forgotten? Ask her? So I'm coming at this particular criticism from the aspect of having 2 close relatives with dementia. Would I remind them that their growm child had died? Would I pass the phone call from the police to either of my relatives to hear such news? No.

But thanks for the correaction, I had that wrong.

Years ago my former BF and his brother were the Health Care and Financial POAs (Power of Attorney) for their aging aunt and uncle who had no chidren of their own. The couple "Jane and John" eventually had to be moved out of their apartment into an assisted living center. Jane started showing signs of dementia and eventually she was moved into the memory care section. Shortly therafter John was hospitalized and Jane kept asking the staff where's John? They would explain he's in the hospital. When John passed away the brothers went to tell Jane. They broke the news and Jane cried for about half an hour. She stopped crying, looked at them and asked "Where's John?" At the time I had wondered should they even have told her? She truly grieved her husband for a short period of time. Was it fair to let her feel that grief even if was soon forgotten? The brothers felt that legally and and morally they needed to tell her that her husband had passed ... a tough decision to make.

 

[DS2021]

'Chilling' is one of the buzzwords tabloids like to use

 

[RedHaus]

Sante Fe police will have a press conference at 2:30pm CST todayhttps://www.youtube.com/live/5eYVs9iFySo?si=i1v44Le8ZY0EL-Fo

This morning ABC announced the presser time as 2pm Mountain Time (3pm Central Time and 4pm Eastern Time): Gene Hackman death mystery: Sheriff to provide updates on Friday

 

[whitelilac]

Isn't it 2:30 CST time now? Or is the PC an hour from now? One site says it's in an hour, but I thought it would be a 2:30 CST.

 

[Sunshynn]

Isn't it 2:30 CST time now? Or is the PC an hour from now? One site says it's in an hour, but I thought it would be a 2:30 CST.

It's a 2:30 CST or 4:30 EST

 

[Joe Friday]

Presser is at 2PM MST which is a little less than 1/2 hour from now.

Refer to this post for official announcement from Sheriff Dept.

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Mar 6, 2025

Hear ye, Hear ye, for anyone unaware of Friday's news conference, @2:00 pm MT.

@CStewartNews


Santa Fe Sheriff just announced a news conf for Friday afternoon to give an update on Gene Hackman and Betsy Arakawa with the medical examiner officials.

7:17 PM · Mar 5, 2025

• arielilane

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[legalmomma]

 

[legalmomma]

Facebook page link: Santa Fe County Sheriff | Santa Fe NM

 

[Sunshynn]

Presser is at 2PM MST which is a little less than 1/2 hour from now.

Refer to this post for official announcement from Sheriff Dept.

Post in thread 'Gene Hackman dead at 95: Iconic actor and wife, 63, are found dead with their dog at Santa Fe home. #2'

Mar 6, 2025

Hear ye, Hear ye, for anyone unaware of Friday's news conference, @2:00 pm MT.

@CStewartNews


Santa Fe Sheriff just announced a news conf for Friday afternoon to give an update on Gene Hackman and Betsy Arakawa with the medical examiner officials.

7:17 PM · Mar 5, 2025

• arielilane

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Weird.
I see that it says 2p but I wonder why the 'live' from Court TV is counting a half hour behind making it 2:30 MST?

 

[Joe Friday]

Mountain Standard Time - Time.is

Exact time now, time zone, time difference, sunrise/sunset time and key facts for Mountain Standard Time (MST).

time.is

 

[Cherwell]

I can understand why it seems that way, but speaking only for myself, I think it's a misunderstanding to say anyone is 'hoping for the worst'.
Bad things happen in this world. And they happen alot to elderly vulnerable people.
The police know this, which is why they are considering all the options and haven't closed the case at the face value of what they found at the scene, but are investigating further.
My desire is that bad people don't get away with doing bad things.
I'm glad that an investigation is being done, in order to rule out the worst possible scenario.
Certainly not because I'm hoping for it.
To be honest, it's hard to know what to 'hope for' in this case, because all the possibilities are horrifying.

Oh, I'm quite sure that some people crave drama. However straightforward a death seems to be, you can bet that there will be some coming up with the most convoluted theories.

 

[arielilane]

STREAMING NOW: Santa Fe County, NM officials offer update on Gene Hackman death​

 

[arielilane]

Officials provide update in death of Gene Hackman​

 

[al66pine]

A change in Sheriff's announcement. Fire Dept is now invited.

FB says "Santa Fe City Fire Dept officials will also be in attendance." City, not county.


@legalmomma TYVM for the update. : )

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[arielilane]

Medical Examiner joining press conference too.

 

[whitelilac]

a vet is also speaking.

 

[Joe Friday]

Veterinarian is going to be there to.