Phew, I've just caught up on 23 pages of comments.
Firstly, what a sad scenario the truth turned out to be. Possibly a week of poor Gene wandering around, unable to care enough for himself to keep himself alive and healthy. Not the scenario any of us hoped for, in fact the exact opposite. I hope that at the very least, this tragic situation has made people stop and think about people in their lives, or themselves, who may need to reconsider how they keep themselves safe from a similar situation. I understand how people may want to retreat from the craziness of the world, but I truly hope they put things in place to ensure their safety.
Now that we know dementia -and advanced dementia at that - was at play, it makes more sense that they may have withdrawn even more in the last 6 months or so. It seems Betsy was more of a caregiver than first thought, and as a "caregiver" type person myself (I'm a mother, nothing more), we do tend to take care of others needs first, even if we're under the weather. Yes, they had plenty of money to get someone in to help with his care, even a live in carer, but that doesn't mean they were comfortable with it. It's one thing to say, help your partner get dressed, another thing to let a complete stranger do it. Another thing again, when you're famous and frail. There could also have been a fear that if anyone knew the extent of his health that she/they would feel forced to put him in a facility. Maybe they just assumed that if it came to it, they'd just get someone in, not expecting it to be a sudden issue that would require it. For whatever reason, they chose to tackle life themselves.
It's been noted that Betsy appeared her normal self on the day she run her last errands, Feb 11th I believe. Nobody has come out to say she looked/sounded/felt unwell, or not herself, and we know she made several stops. Whilst her death could have been an acute incident that evening, I can see her declining over several days. Just because she didn't send or read any emails, or didn't show signs of being online, after that date, I don't necessarily believe that meant she died then. We've all been sick enough where we take ourselves to bed, or set up on a couch, and slept on and off until we're better. Sometimes for days. There's definitely been times where jumping online was not an option for me. At best, I may have thrown the TV on to catch my attention whilst I was awake. In fact, there was a time I was sick, and I'd taken to my bed. In this instance, I was definitely not up to "soldiering on" (something I always do, as a mother, because it's in my nature) or scrolling the internet. I assumed I "just" had the flu. Not wanting to cause a fuss, I shrugged off going to the doctor. Eventually my husband insisted, and I gave in. The doctor told me to go straight to the hospital, where I was admitted with pneumonia. This was a bit of a wake up call for me, and I've since been better at getting checked out "just in case". I can imagine Betsy, given her situation, would have wanted to stay home and care for Gene as best she could while she recovered. (If indeed she even knew she was sick at that stage) I wonder if she had taken to her bed, and was in the bathroom because of nature calling, or to get a Tylenol to ease a headache or fever?
The crated dog -Zinna?- had just come back from a procedure at the vet. There's a good chance she was in there to recover, or to be apart from the more boisterous dogs. There's been no mention of her wearing a cone or other device to stop licking, so maybe it was just something as innocent as a teeth cleaning under sedation? Sometimes dogs take a few days to come around fully and be back to their normal selves, so that may have been the reason she was in the crate.
As for poor Gene, it's intensely saddening to think of him alone in that big old remote house, possibly for a week, whilst not being of clear mind. We can only hope that perhaps he wasn't aware of Betsy's death and that he managed reasonably well until his lack of medication may have taken its toll. Quickly I hope. It's deeply troubling to think too much about that. I can imagine that thought is on repeat in the minds of his loved ones. Such an odd, tragic sequence of events.
RIP Betsy, Gene & Zinna. Condolences to their loved ones.