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I think dementia is a very strange disease. It's like when a light bulb is ready to go and it starts flickering and then it stops and lights normally, then the next time you turn in on, it does it again and again before it finally dims. I think that's what was happening to my mother.I don't think, at least not in my experience, that a person with advanced ALZ would think to put on sunglasses to go outside.
It indicates to me that he was sane enough to have them handy for up to a week, and to use them at all. That, and staying hydrated. I'm on the side of the fence with those who think she lived beyond 11 feb, or he would have lost his sunglasses by 16-17 feb. Which is when, imo, he fell.
Before I knew she dementia, my dad took her to the doctor to see what was happening and the doctor gave her these tests to ascertain whether or not she had the symptoms and they were all over the map. She couldn't tell him what year she was born in but could do fairly complex math equations. She could tell time with a dial but not digital. We'd go out for a drive to the store and she knew who my dad was going but then when he came out of the store she thought he was her dad. She could recite a poem yet forget a recipe. She'd see a cow and think it was a big dog. And when I told WS about her not recognizing me initially, every now and then she did. It's a fascinating and terrible thing to witness and I wanted so much to ask her questions while she was in another reality but I didn't want to see that confusion and fear in her eyes. It's very heart breaking to witness and as much as I was angry at my dad for hiding her situation from her family, I could understand his protective nature. So finding Gene with his cane and sunglasses could have been him maybe deciding to take the dogs for a walk and in the brief moment of lucidity remembered that Betsy had gone to the store, and thinking it was the same day. He may have even found her and decided to get help. We'll never know and everyone has to be content with the findings and not create conspiracies or malign family members for their lack of contact. They probably thought Betsy was a stalwart protector of Gene and never in a million years did they envision and end like this.