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Same.I know. I've wondered the same thing. I'm pretty close with my 2 grown kids. But I can't imagine my son wanting to talk to me on the phone, everyday for hours. I have no idea what we would discuss for that long.
My daughter and I do talk almost every day. But not for hours and hours.
It does not sound very healthy, especially given the long description of his lengthy P____N addiction. Somehow the lengthy list of those video titles, which include forced abductions, assaults, etc, and then info about him speaking to his mother daily for hours----the mixture seems toxically unhealthy. IMO
I have three adult kids in his age range, plus a niece I helped raise. I notice when one is having a tough time (a break up, stress at work), they like to talk to me more often, though not necessarily about the issue directly. I think it's just grounding to talk to Mom. My advice on how to pick produce at the farmers' market might be a comfort when you're under pressure on the job, ykwim? So, the topic of the conversations with Mother might not really shed light on the actual crimes, idk.
However, I think his conversations with Mother are over the top and signal more than just a tough stretch. His demands on her time are concerning, for one thing. If I sensed too much dependency on me, I would try to ease the adult child toward weaning off the phone calls. "Call me the day after tomorrow with an update," and encourage independence. Maybe Mother did that or maybe his situation was too dire and precarious in her mind to let go, idk.
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