I've seen other judges in action. They are usually firm, concise, fair and unafraid of hurting feelings. It seems she lacks confidence in making swift decisions and lacks the fortitude to say NO. She does occasionally, like denying Jodi's request for a meeting and telling Laviolette she doesn't care about her problems, among other things. But Nurmi would not be having his run of the courtroom were it any other judge. I had thought this was a stylistic difference and it worked for her. I don't think it does, here.
Another thing is judges are usually, as you've been saying, very mindful of jurors and respectful of the sacrifice they're making by being there. The judge has no consideration for them or that this trial is taking a huge chunk out of their lives. Jodi's rights are obviously more important, but the judge doesn't even acknowledge them.
Someone mentioned judge Ito the other day and I'd read he was heavily criticized for allowing the OJ circus. I looked up the other day why that was. He allowed numerous objections every few minutes, allowed numerous, lengthy sidebars, and allowed the attorneys to bicker on end. That sounds very familiar. That trial took nine months. This trial, having technically started in January of 2013, has taken even longer. Almost two years. This isn't the way.
I still find the notion that she's in the defense's pocket or that she will sentence Jodi to life with parole a silly one. She's not in anyone's pocket. She's just trying to be fair but I think sometimes she doesn't understand how to do that.