RoughlyCollie
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don't know the timeline...but do know DY and Kaine WERE not there...very special day for Kyron....
Well, if a parent has to work, that's how the cookie crumbles sometimes. If a working parent has a conflict between his child's wants and his employer's needs, the employer wins because, if for no other valid reason, the paycheck puts a roof over the family's heads and food on the table.
Besides, we don't know how special the day actually was from Kyron's point of view, or whether having Kaine there was of utmost importance to him. He may have understood that his dad had to work, and been quite satisfied to have Terri there. He may have been excited about seeing the exhibits, and whether his parents were there may not have been all that important to him, as long as one was there (so he didn't feel left out when the other kids' parents were there).
My four kids had project days similar to this when they were young, and they were not excited about it. They quickly learned early on that their projects never lived up to those that parents did for their kids. They had a hard time understanding why this was not okay, because the parents' projects always received the most praise and/or won the competitions. That may have been okay with some parents, the teachers and the school, but it was not okay with me. Real self esteem comes from one's own hard work and achievements, and to hand it out for free based on the work of someone else is cheating the children, plain and simple.
If I had done most of the work on my young kids' projects, what was there for them to be excited about? Public recognition for something they did not do. That's a real downer to most kids when they think about it -- it means, in essence, that their parents did not have much faith in their child's ability to do the work and that the child could not live up to his parent's expectations.