Who was Lee so darn proud of? and why?

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  • #41
I thought it was unusual that he used a laptop for that speech. It was a short speech. Would you have taken your laptop to the podium? Just wondering.

I think that the "proud" thing was directed to KC and I feel it means they all share a secret --he's proud that KC hasn't divulged what it is.

I think so as well, and have for a long time. Well, she can be proud of herself for keeping "the secret" for which she might have sacrificed her own child... Hope she enjoys prison food while she is keeping that precious secret close to her heart, the way she should have kept Caylee.

JMHO
 
  • #42
He starts addressing CMA at about 3:03.

I agree, many of these statements are inappropriate in reference to a toddler.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WNvDk9DctRI

Thank youfor that reminder, Linz

Cindy's hand was on his back and shoulder all the way through a difficult speach. I think he wa not only coached, but encouraged to give it the way they (I think I mean SHE) thought had the most appeal.

IMHO, there should be a penalty for "silent" abusers. I just saw one, right there.

The CMA stuff wasn't his idea, as it's so obvious that he feels very uncomfortable deliveing the lines, even when his mother taps and pushes from his back.

How can anyone let her contiune to manipulate her grown-up children that way? Or anyone, for that matter? But maybe that's the problem: they're not allowed to be "grown-up".

Whatever made CA the way she is, she has certainly made sure and insisted that her children suffer alongside, and much more, if possible. Why punish them? Because she can. Yikes.

JMHO
 
  • #43
In the ZFG depo he was directly asked about this, who were you referring to when you said CMA at the memorial,

Lee answered that there are three women in his life with those initials, mom sis and Caylee

Near the end of the interview, Morgan brought up Caylee's memorial service.

Anthony, during the service, mentioned a promise he made to "CMA."

"Speaking to Caylee . . . I made a promise to her early, early on in July that no matter what it took, I was going to find out the truth," Anthony explained to Morgan.
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I found it.... the exact spot in the depo, he definitely was asked and answered these questions.

The lawyer first asked him why the memorial was public and the media invited. Lee answered that if he had his way it would have been completely private, maybe only a dozen people, max, they would record it and Baez could later show it to Casey on the computer. It was my mom, he went on to explain that organized it to be streamed live so that Casey could hear the entire thing contemporaneously as it was going on, that was very important to mom.

So, yes it seems he was admitting that many of the remarks of the family were geared toward Casey. At the time when Lee was giving his speech at the memorial, I pictured him sitting at his computer the night before and finally crying his heart out, letting it all out finally and it sounded to me like he was resigned to Casey's fate and was saying good bye to her too. He knew she would never get out of jail. It was over.
All hope for any other result was lost and indeed he felt broken. I don't have a problem with Lee's remarks. Imagine your sibling, that you played in the sandbox with, taught how to ride a bike, shared every Christmas and birthday and sports victory and defeat with, the one person you grew up with doing something like this ....imagine that person sending you on wild goose chases and lying to you. If you were Lee, you be wondering why couldn't she just have come to me and say let the baby sleep at your house tonight, I am so mad at mom I can't even see straight. Why didn't she just call on me, he has likely wondered. He says he talks to Caylee everday. He must feel like he let her down by not having that be clear to Casey that she could always come to him. I cannot even imagine. I got interested in this case because I have a niece that looks like Caylee. I wouldn't even be able to stand up if my sister had murdered her own child that I adore and who is the sunshine of my entire family. I wouldn't be able to give any public talk, it would kill me. He knew he was never going to go see her again and he indeed has been at no hearing to offer her support, that speaks volumes to me. I trust the lawyers implore him to come for appearances sake and we know mom tries to shame him in to it...still he stays away. He said goodbye to both Caylee and Casey at that podium. I was thinking that maybe he felt guilty for being detached lately from the family and wondered if he could have done something to prevent what happened. He seemed like he was saying to Casey all the things he wished he had said to her and reassured her long ago and steered her toward another path. This is common at funerals when there has been a suicide for example. Can you imagine being Lee, trying to hold the insanity going on in the Anthony home, dad trying to take his life, Cindy in utter denial...Lee trying to hold the pieces of the family together. When he said he was broken, I believed him. He has had his face shoved down pretty hard on the mat by his own sister. I say we let him up. I pray for his courage and love for Caylee that he will take the stand and tell the truth and keep his promise he made her.


I am in no way sticking up for Casey. I want her punished in the harshest terms available. I just don't think Lee had anything to do with what happened to Caylee, and he did the best he could at a funeral that was likely one of the worst experiences of his entire life.
 
  • #44
[respectfully snipped for brevity]
He said goodbye to both Caylee and Casey at that podium.


I understand what you're saying, this is a memorial service, where people who feel grief may express it in different ways...

If he felt grief (and I don't doubt he did) for his niece, he could at least call her by her name. If he felt compassion for his sister, he could have spoken her name. If he felt love for his mother, her name should have been spoken as it is.

Instead, "CMA" substituting for all three .... conjures planning, and deliberate delivery. I don't think it was his idea, as I thought his body language said he just had to say what he was told and he couldn't wait to get out of there.

I think one CMA orchestrated all of it.

JMHO
 
  • #45
In the ZFG depo he was directly asked about this, who were you referring to when you said CMA at the memorial,

Lee answered that there are three women in his life with those initials, mom sis and Caylee

Near the end of the interview, Morgan brought up Caylee's memorial service.

Anthony, during the service, mentioned a promise he made to "CMA."

"Speaking to Caylee . . . I made a promise to her early, early on in July that no matter what it took, I was going to find out the truth," Anthony explained to Morgan.

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I will try to find the exact spot in the depo, but he definitely was asked and answered these questions.

The lawyer first asked him why the memorial was public and the media invited. Lee answered that if he had his way it would have been completely private, maybe only a dozen people, max, they would record it and Baez could later show it to Casey on the computer. It was my mom, he went on to explain that organized it to be streamed live so that Casey could hear the entire thing contemporaneously as it was going on, that was very important to mom.

So, yes it seems he was admitting that many of the remarks of the family were geared toward Casey. At the time when Lee was giving his speech at the memorial, I pictured him sitting at his computer the night before and finally crying his heart out, letting it all out finally and it sounded to me like he was resigned to Casey's fate and was saying good bye to her too.
All hope for any other result was lost and indeed he felt broken. I don't have a problem with Lee's remarks. I wouldn't even be able to stand up if my sister had murdered her own child that I adore and who is the sunshine of my entire family. I wouldn't be able to give any public talk, it would kill me. He knew he was never going to go see her again and he indeed has been at no hearing to offer her support, that speaks volumes to me. I trust the lawyers implore him to come for appearances sake and we know mom tries to shame him in to it...still he stays away. He said goodbye to both Caylee and Casey at that podium. I was thinking that maybe he felt guilty for being detached lately from the family and wondered if he could have done something to prevent what happened. He seemed like he was saying to Casey all the things he wished he had said to her and reassured her long ago and steered her toward another path. This is common at funerals when there has been a suicide for example. Can you imagine being Lee, trying to hold the insanity going on in the Anthony home, dad trying to take his life, Cindy in utter denial...Lee trying to hold the pieces of the family together. When he said he was broken, I believed him.

[bolding mine]

I do, too. I think he still is. But I also think he knows a lot more than he's prepared to tell.

JMHO
 
  • #46
Every memorial service I have ever been to has been about the life of the person being honored. I heard Jo Jo tell folks that it was "he" that taught Caylee the Sunshine song. I heard Lee tell folks that "HE" was broken. I heard requests of letters and understanding for KC. It was one big Public Service Announcement for KC and the ultimate betrayal of Caylee.

If you think about it, this family has a lot of anger yet someone killed their Caylee and I have seen no anger toward that person at all.
 
  • #47
Every memorial service I have ever been to has been about the life of the person being honored. I heard Jo Jo tell folks that it was "he" that taught Caylee the Sunshine song. I heard Lee tell folks that "HE" was broken. I heard requests of letters and understanding for KC. It was one big Public Service Announcement for KC and the ultimate betrayal of Caylee.

If you think about it, this family has a lot of anger yet someone killed their Caylee and I have seen no anger toward that person, whoever they think it/he/ahe may be/ Why not? at all.
I suppose now they've got Kronk to blame for it.

Your comments are very interesting. I think you'll find that there is anger, mixed up with love and a sense of responsability. That combnation is "standard", for any family.

But not any family ends up losing a child - there's the rub.

I have no doubt that something happened that night which caused the neighbours to remember it.

I have no doubt that all the A's loved Caylee,

I have no doubt that in a moment of anger and frustration, Casey might have said things she probably didn'y mean. Or maybe she did - I don't know.

All I know is that after that argument, Caylee "disappeared" and was found decomposing close to her parents' home.

If anyone cares to dismiss that as coincidence (reviewing facts/forensics), please do. Just tell me why.

JMHO
 
  • #48
So many things for Lee to be proud of. Let's list them shall we?
A sister who steals from him and his friends and his parents...
A sister whose child is missing unreported for 31 days...
A sister who was dancing on stripper poles and cooking for the boys while her daughter was missing...
A sister who robbed her best friend Amy while at the same time lying to her and deceiving her about them moving in together...
A sister whose primary concern once she was arrested was to talk to her boyfriend...never ONCE inquiring about CAYLEE...
A sister whose remark when death banded hair was discovered in her car from her, her mother or her daughter was well I am alive...
A sister who has wasted literally millions of dollars over the past almost 2 years while she has lied, connived and deceived everyone coming and going...
A sister who mocks the entire justice system and believes herself above it and beyond its reach...
A sister who hauled her daughters rotting corpse around in her trunk until the stench would be obvious even from OUTSIDE the vehicle...
A sister who never once even purchased a package of diapers for her own daughter and completely mooched off her parents and used her child as a bargaining chip to get her way...
A sister who accused him of inappropriate sexual advances toward her...

Dang, with a sister like that who wouldn't be proud?:angel:
 
  • #49
Lee makes no sense. If I try to make sense of it I can't. It's all an act to portray her as innocent. Where is Lee these days?
 
  • #50
CMA, CMA, CMA. It seems highly inappropriate to confuse people at your deceased niece's memorial service. It is just plain wrong. The three Anthonys were sending their messages to Casey, worried she'd feel left out of the service for the daughter she may have killed. Really, it was suppose to be all about Caylee, in honor of Caylee, for Caylee. No?

The pouty, sarcastic Casey I know all too well from the jail house calls and visits was probably sitting there with balled fists making "Huge Waste" remarks anyways.

I, too, wonder what Lee really thinks about Casey at this point. Casey definitely brought shame on the entire family, and there's nothing to be proud about.
 
  • #51
He's not really proud of his sister in general, that is demonstrated in their conversations and LA's LE interviews....Bizarre. The kindest thing he has said about KC is that he believes everything she has told him. That really has nothing to do with pride.

If he was talking to his mom, why kiss the bracelet?

Why would he be proud of Caylee in all of this? Of course he loved his niece and was proud of her in life, but what role has Caylee played in death that LA would be "proud" of?

Perhaps JB told the A's that KC is holding up in jail, that she is behaving well and is focusing on her case. I guess that is sorta something to be behind her on, especially in LA's eyes-LA seems very determined that KC go through this legal battle in a manner that utilizes all of her legal rights as a person presumed innocent. He has been quite focused in helping her preserve that, telling CA not to open the door for LE without a subpoena/warrant, etc, insisting that KC not speak openly over the jail monitors.
Didn't RobD refer to LA as the Gatekeeper?
LA could possibly be proud that KC is taking his advice, JB's advice, and protecting herself by taking the right legal steps and staying quiet.
If your relative is innocent, then yes, it is a good thing for them to calm down and take the appropriate steps to get out of the situation-But KC murdered Caylee, so in spite of all LA's intentions for her legal well-being, KC staying this course will turn out badly for her anyway.


Until I read Lee's interview with LE again I thought he was talking to Casey at the memorial service. I just thought he had an odd way of saying things but was trying to get a message out to her.

Now I think everything he said was directed to Caylee. The little girl that never had a chance. My take on Lee's interview with LE was that he can see right through Casey. She didn't fool him in the least growing up and through the past years since she had Caylee. Lee did say "I believe everything my sister tells me" BUT THEN HE ADDED "because I have to." I think Lee has his own mind and knows exactly who killed Caylee but for the sake of his mother, who he really does love, he keeps his thoughts to himself.

I don't know why he kept saying CMA over and over but I sincerely believe he meant Caylee. His voice kept breaking and I got the impression that he couldn't bring himself to say Caylee's name out loud or he would have totally broken. It was Caylee's ashes in the bracelet that he kissed and I think the kiss was meant for his little Caylee.

I believe it is possible to be proud of a two year old. He might have been proud of how smart she was and all of the cute little things that she did. He might have been proud to take her places and show her off. Proud of how cute she was and her singing so cute. He might have been proud to be her uncle. Lots of things.
 
  • #52
Until I read Lee's interview with LE again I thought he was talking to Casey at the memorial service. I just thought he had an odd way of saying things but was trying to get a message out to her.

Now I think everything he said was directed to Caylee. The little girl that never had a chance. My take on Lee's interview with LE was that he can see right through Casey. She didn't fool him in the least growing up and through the past years since she had Caylee. Lee did say "I believe everything my sister tells me" BUT THEN HE ADDED "because I have to." I think Lee has his own mind and knows exactly who killed Caylee but for the sake of his mother, who he really does love, he keeps his thoughts to himself.

I don't know why he kept saying CMA over and over but I sincerely believe he meant Caylee. His voice kept breaking and I got the impression that he couldn't bring himself to say Caylee's name out loud or he would have totally broken. It was Caylee's ashes in the bracelet that he kissed and I think the kiss was meant for his little Caylee.

I believe it is possible to be proud of a two year old. He might have been proud of how smart she was and all of the cute little things that she did. He might have been proud to take her places and show her off. Proud of how cute she was and her singing so cute. He might have been proud to be her uncle. Lots of things.

Yes, exactly-he had his sister's number, and you could tell in the LE interviews most of all, even in his depo with John Morgan.

I think he is trying to make sure she takes advantage of all legal recourse and all of her rights, etc, but for a good reason....LA was/is taking this position because it ultimately may help him get the information he wants from KC. Not necessarily so he could feed it to police, but information that he needed to know to make sense of things in his own mind.

The family has always maintained that they could get the truth out of her if they were afforded a private chance, and I think LA was very convinced of his ability to get her to talk. LA seems to work methodically and through some semblance of logic, and to him it is only logical that if he lays out the facts without emotion or too much speculation, and he nurtures KC's need to feel protected, he can tap into something with her that will satisfy his need to know. Once he knew, he could then help deal with his parents' devastation.

The police needed to use pressure. Her parents would fall into emotional traps. If LA remained in this robotic mode of no pressure, no assignment of guilt and bad feelings, he could beat KC's game-If she is truly sociopathic, LA may have been onto a good method of dealing with her.

ETA-Yes, I guess I am giving LA some credit....
 
  • #53
CMA, CMA, CMA. It seems highly inappropriate to confuse people at your deceased niece's memorial service. It is just plain wrong. The three Anthonys were sending their messages to Casey, worried she'd feel left out of the service for the daughter she may have killed. Really, it was suppose to be all about Caylee, in honor of Caylee, for Caylee. No?

The pouty, sarcastic Casey I know all too well from the jail house calls and visits was probably sitting there with balled fists making "Huge Waste" remarks anyways.

I, too, wonder what Lee really thinks about Casey at this point. Casey definitely brought shame on the entire family, and there's nothing to be proud about.

Yes. But I feel very strongly that someone else influenced that speech. You'd think that by then, a grown up man, he'd have been able to speak his own mind. Somehow, I don't think it's a possibility in that household, whether you live in, or out.

Just my opinion.
 
  • #54
Yes, exactly-he had his sister's number, and you could tell in the LE interviews most of all, even in his depo with John Morgan.

I think he is trying to make sure she takes advantage of all legal recourse and all of her rights, etc, but for a good reason....LA was/is taking this position because it ultimately may help him get the information he wants from KC. Not necessarily so he could feed it to police, but information that he needed to know to make sense of things in his own mind.

The family has always maintained that they could get the truth out of her if they were afforded a private chance, and I think LA was very convinced of his ability to get her to talk. LA seems to work methodically and through some semblance of logic, and to him it is only logical that if he lays out the facts without emotion or too much speculation, and he nurtures KC's need to feel protected, he can tap into something with her that will satisfy his need to know. Once he knew, he could then help deal with his parents' devastation.

The police needed to use pressure. Her parents would fall into emotional traps. If LA remained in this robotic mode of no pressure, no assignment of guilt and bad feelings, he could beat KC's game-If she is truly sociopathic, LA may have been onto a good method of dealing with her.

ETA-Yes, I guess I am giving LA some credit....

Jayla, I think that is spot on!!! I watched the ZFG depo again and what I took away from it was exactly as you described. Morgan would ask him things like didn't you call sis on it and say I know that is a lie. Lee would answer no, I have explained to you that was not my "strategy". He went on to detail if you are trying to gleam information from someone you have to believe them for them to continue divulging things to you. So the "I believe everything my sister tells me, because I have to" was explained with the dots pretty close together, and we see the little grin as he and Morgan chuckle. If you need a strategy to talk to your sibling, you are on to her, all day long. We heard him tell her she was lying and he knew she had lied to mom for five weeks, and that everything she had told police was a lie. We heard that on the very first phone call from jail. So, we know he is not naive. He plays her game to try to find clues in her lies. Lee avoiding each and every hearing in the case tells us where Lee stands. There is no boss in America that wouldn't let you take your lunch early or have two hours off in the morning and make it up after five if you had a family member on trial. He doesn't want to stand by her.The only action that would be more overt on his part would be to come to the hearings and sit on the prosecution side , front and center. imho
 
  • #55
Mmmmm... that's food for thought. But there's the CMA stuff to still deal with.

Does CA have such an influence on even an adult, responsible male that she can somehow force him into that?

If so, how much influence did she have on Casey? Or Caylee, for that matter.

I'm not suggesting for one split-second that she doesn't love them, but I'm wondering whether her love was styflining, or worse, possessive to breaking point.

She strikes me as a person who is very strong and very determined and appears to be "together". Yet, at times, she falls into the "victim" role.

Pretense never serves anyone well. I don't know whether she's pretending for the sake of her daughter (BTW - if she is, she's doing a lousy job of it), or for herself. I tend for the latter.

The only innocent in this family was Caylee, and it's such a shame that she had to pay with her life for all their inadequacies.

Still - she's in a much better and beautiful place, and the rest can tear each other apart at their will.

JMHO
 
  • #56
It is possible that LA used CMA to placate his mother. She may have given (re: GA's speech regarding KC) instructions that everyone had to say something good about KC. LA may not have been able to do that, so he used CMA. That way his mother can believe what she will about who he was talking about.

I believe, too, LA has distanced himself because he has a meaningful relationship and their future together to protect. JMO
 
  • #57
It is possible that LA used CMA to placate his mother. She may have given (re: GA's speech regarding KC) instructions that everyone had to say something good about KC. LA may not have been able to do that, so he used CMA. That way his mother can believe what she will about who he was talking about.

I believe, too, LA has distanced himself because he has a meaningful relationship and their future together to protect. JMO

Got it.

I hope LA's relationship and future are safe and happy.

I think whatsherame needs to butt out because she seems to cause nothing but havoc, pain and disrruption and I woiuld venture to say even worse. It's like she has a perpetual desire to blame and hurt, as if that's her only purpose in life.

I hope I'm wrong.

JMHIO
 
  • #58
now i know why i love websleuths- every single one of you posts such great posts and i am addicted to reading every one of them! we all agree to disagree with such class, agree with thanks and never humiliate each other. thanks all!
 
  • #59
now i know why i love websleuths- every single one of you posts such great posts and i am addicted to reading every one of them! we all agree to disagree with such class, agree with thanks and never humiliate each other. thanks all!

Cheers!

There's a lot more to come, and it won't all be pleasant, I expect...

JMHO
 
  • #60
I don't understand Lee anymore than I understand any of the others. If the CMA reference was directed to his sister, in a covert attempt to show support, then why hasn't he been at any of the hearings, been to visit her, etc...? It's such a weird way to "show support", if that's what he was doing (and I think it was).

It seems that only the females in this family are allowed to "speak freely".

I know, I thought it was so weird too. Why be cryptic at all? Why not just say (if he meant it) "I'm so proud of you Casey, for protecting the family even though it means being in jail" or "proud of you for holding up as well as you can in prison while being wrongly accused", or whatever it was he meant or believed. I'm so proud of you Mom for surviving through this nightmare, or whatever, if he felt proud of them. Why be cryptic with the CMA, CMA. Very weird. As others posted here, I agree, the "I'm so proud" doesn't seem like it would be addressed to a child as young as Caylee, unless he qualified it with "I was always so proud to be your uncle, because you were such a wonderful little girl. I'll never forget this and this about you, etc...." It did seem that he was talking to Casey, and proud for what exactly, and why so cryptic? I always wondered, too. Thanks for the thread.
I did always think it was just such a shame he didn't say more about Caylee. It wasn't the right place to speak about other things. Like many of you said here, if he wanted to talk to Casey, why not go to the prison to talk to her? Although I understood his appeal to everyone for information, I thought that was appropriate because it was about finding Caylee's killer. But the rest?
 
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