Even if its the outcome you have come to expect, its still heartbreaking to hear. It is also sad that every time a child goes missing we automatically think that a parent is probably the reason and we are usually right. What a sad world this has become when the two people who are supposed to protect that child and love it are now most likely to be responsible when their child turns up missing.
I work in Foster Care as a counselor.
I work with many of the 'birth families'. Alot of the 'abuse' cases come in because:
1) the parents are young, uneducated, and certainly not ready to be parents.
2) The parents have mental health issues that are extensive.
3) The parent is a 'baby daddy' or 'baby momma' who splits with the original partner and finds a new partner, someone who really doesn't have a connection to the children.
My dad died when I had turned 18. My siblings were younger. My mom took awhile before she dated and got involved with her boyfriend. He had no say in how she raised us, or anything of that nature. She felt that was HER job.
I treat my own step daughter with love and respect. I beleive she's a special person. I respect my husband's ex. They had tough times, and their split wasn't a great one, but years later things are mended.
I never had children because I felt I could not have provided them the emotional, psychological, finacial stability a child needed and deserves.
It burns me that many of these parents seem not to consider these things at all. They bring children into the world that they have no way of nurturing or providing for. They are unstable, and so there is no stability for the children which is sad. They 'hook up' and move in way to fast with another partner. They don't put their children first, their children are toys, it appears, to be paid attention to when they feel like it. They don't look to the quality of their new partner when they 'hook up', and don't consider how that person treats their child.
These two sweet looking little beings, Zahra, the two boys taken by selfish dad and gosh knows where....
people should have to get a license to have children.:furious: