Inthedetails
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I'm wondering if shame was a big factor in his disordered mind. CW can't handle other's being disappointed in him. Otherwise, I haven't a clue, there must have been red flags earlier though, imo.
Bingo. I think this is it.
He was facing the shame of yet another financial disaster (not their first) plus his infidelities. The upcoming meeting with HOA about finances makes me think they missed payments not only to HOA but to the bank too (speculation), a home which is featured in the livestreams for the business. That would not only be an embarrassment from family and friends, but from their "public" and clients, etc.
Walking out on a pregnant wife while having affair(s) and in the midst of financial problems looks terrible! Duh. Lots of shame was about to happen.
But if his wife "disappeared with the kids" he would have an excuse for his life falling apart and could blame her for not sticking around to help.
Their problems were not insurmountable, but he reacted as if they were - and I think that reaction was likely due to shame (more than narcissism).
My opinion at the moment.