Her child has been gone for more than 2 years. But you absolutely can get custody orders before divorce orders. Many people do that, including myself. She Had many options (including trying to find him) but instead decided just to wait the last several years to see if he would return her so I guess it's not surprising she's not beating down the police doors to get DNA, etc.. She just seems so passive it makes me wonder if there is more to the story. Her daughter definitely looks similar.
I hope that this is the kick she needs to snap into action and fight for her baby, assuming she's not the child that was found.
With so many shares someone has to know something about this girl. :-(