I mean, I personally wouldn't tell my mom if I was ****ing around with a married co-worker/security guard for the building where my mom and I both work. Just saying. It would be kept on the DL.
Many years ago and 3 yrs into a stressful bad marriage at age 28, I did have a short affair with a younger guy I worked with. Absolutely NO ONE on either side of the relationship was told anything. No closest friends and no family members and not even coworkers knew. it just depends on the 2 people involved and the reasons, as to how they handle that. Not saying anything was going on with these two at all. And at this time I don't really think there was. There is no evidence of it from LE or even leaks on social media.
I agree about not telling her mom about a relationship. That said, if DS and the SG were more than casual workplace "acquaintances", how could her mother not know about the relationship? Granted, I don't know how closely mom and daughter worked at MetLife. I suppose if they were in different departments, they might not have come in close contact during the workday. Given that mother and daughter worked for the same company, I tend to think they saw one another frequently, possibly daily, and that Mrs. Stislicki knew more about Danielle's personal life than mothers/daughters who don't work together. Not to mention workplace gossip... But that's a whole 'nother discussion
So it seems several agree that it's highly likely if there was any sort of relationship, she wouldn't inform her mom. Mixed results on whether she would inform a friend (I'm kinda iffy on that one as well).
I know there's really no evidence that says the two were in a relationship, but I've made a list of things that make me wonder.
Female murder victims are murdered most often for domestic homicides (63.7%) and sex-related homicides (81.7%). A depressed partner increases the risk of domestic violence. As well as separating or threatening to separate from the partner. The last two are pretty big leaps based on the information we have, but it could be relevant.
Timing of DS's breakup and SG leaving ML and having a sick wife. While not exact, the timing is fairly close. It would explain why no one at ML could have known. It could have started very innocently too. Something like him getting her number so he could keep in touch if they talked on occasion. Two people bummed about life/love have something to immediately bond over.
It seems to avoid a lot of the questions regarding how they ended up together which I touched on earlier.
Suspicion that she was at his home the night she disappeared. If he was stalking her, it seems her apt. would have been the easiest place to grab her, yet LE think her vehicle was returned to IGA. I think there would have been a witness if he forced himself into her vehicle at the apt. I still think anything forcible at ML would have been too big of a risk. If it started consensual, like them meeting in a neutral location, why move her back to his house? Even if he incapacitated her in some fashion, why commit a crime in your home? There appears to be very many places where one could have privacy within just a few minutes drive from any of the locations of interest in this case.
Again, how quickly they circled in on him. Getting him on video with DS would have eventually led LE to SG, but unless someone he knew in LE ID'd him, I'd suspect someone had enough reason to assume it was him with her. DS was driving when she left ML and I'm fairly confident we would have heard something, even through the rumor mill, about spotting SG or his vehicle at ML that day. Of course, I have no idea how they were lead to SG. One of his friends could have talked to LE for all I know.
Of course, all of this could be explained away. And it's just as likely they were just acquaintances. Or that he was a violent stalker (
Intimate partner stalkers are more likely than other types of stalkers to physically approach the victim and to use a weapon; they are also more likely to reoffend). Maybe DS's friend knew that he was stalking her. Maybe DS's mom knew.