You know at 18 I think you are more willing to just up and leave, with or without your stuff. Lots of kids do every year, and she is used to moving and relocating because she has lived all over due to the military life. So maybe it is easier to just move on out. IDK, but I do know from personal experience that moving in with different parent and step mom and step kids it is not easy. I did it at 18 and I did not get along all that well with my step mom. It was hard.
I snuck off when I left my birth mother's home. I left work early that day, filled my car with my stuff and left. It was planned, but I didn't want a confrontation. She was very abusive, violent, and vengeful. Also I was rebellious and angry and didn't think she deserved to know anything about my life. However, I risked taking my stuff and stayed in contact with those I didn't think would leak info back to my mother. I don't know how long it was before she knew I was gone, but I suspect it was the same day since I never had any privacy or peace. She was really mad at me for a long time for getting one over on her. We have no relationship now.You know at 18 I think you are more willing to just up and leave, with or without your stuff. Lots of kids do every year, and she is used to moving and relocating because she has lived all over due to the military life. So maybe it is easier to just move on out. IDK, but I do know from personal experience that moving in with different parent and step mom and step kids it is not easy. I did it at 18 and I did not get along all that well with my step mom. It was hard.
I snuck off when I left my birth mother's home. I left work early that day, filled my car with my stuff and left. It was planned, but I didn't want a confrontation. She was very abusive, violent, and vengeful. Also I was rebellious and angry and didn't think she deserved to know anything about my life. However, I risked taking my stuff and stayed in contact with those I didn't think would leak info back to my mother. I don't know how long it was before she knew I was gone, but I suspect it was the same day since I never had any privacy or peace. She was really mad at me for a long time for getting one over on her. We have no relationship now.
The moral to all that is.... would Sara avoid ALL people she's ever known in her whole life? That sort of clean cut is more the cause of an abducted or incompacitated person.
I have known someone to leave and stay out of contact for several years. But they had already left home when the parents lost contact with them. And I've known of another who left without any warning, without taking anything, but they returned briefly to get some of their things. However they remained out of contact for the most part with their parents for approximately six months.
ETA: I think both these avoided all contact with their former life.
IMO someone who recently moved to a more exciting life would be at risk for the above mentioned "threats." Sara, even if bored and intellectually understimulated, would know the sorts of people that come and go in that type of setting by that point in her life. Now, a southern/small town girl in a big city for the first time? Might be more likely to trust an unsavory character*.. but we have no indication that Sara had any such plans to leave, especially in a way that hurts her family so terribly.
*source: GA-NYC, amazing how kind an unexpected southern accent sounds, even if it's coming from a taxi driver who's about to seriously rip you off. :iamashamed:
... and able to make the parents think they had left with her. Or law-enforcement has been deceptive in saying that.
Still, if this is a case of abduction or leaving willingly Sara was very skilled at deception and able to make the parents think they had left with her. Or law-enforcement has been deceptive in saying that.
I'm just going to say, I don't know how familiar any of you are with reddit, but the subreddit raisedbynarcissists (really its for anyone raised by overbearing/abusive parents) gives pretty good details on how to leave an abusive situation. Without Sara's phone, I don't know that they could know if she'd seen something like that, with instructions on how to leave and support from other people; I don't think they could get her search history from her cell provider.
However, the abrupt cut in social media and not talking to her best friend about it makes me think she is in danger/cannot contact anyone anymore for whatever reason.
Like GigTu, I too left a 'life' and started new. Mine was due to a evil birth mother though. I've got an order of protection keeping her away still. It's sometimes easier to run in the other direction and never look back no matter how large or small your family is. It happens more often than many want to think about. Thanks for letting me ramble. : )
I can't imagine being that brave. Kudos to you for leaving a bad situation.
Out of curiosity, and feel free to disregard if it comes off personal.. how would you have acted if said birth mother reported you missing, put out flyers, appeared on TV about you, etc?
Very true...playing devil's advocate now...Sara grew up with a military parent and albeit shortly, lived with two long standing LE. She might have picked up on things herself and knew how to make herself vanish. Could she have possibly staged this herself?
I believe out there on your own willingly or unwillingly you are in a dangerous situation. Cutting yourself off from everything you've ever known doesn't sound wise or safe.
granola said:However, the abrupt cut in social media and not talking to her best friend about it makes me think she is in danger/cannot contact anyone anymore for whatever reason.