He just keeps saying things that don't add up. I remember distinctly hearing the news saying that the truck was registered to her at an address on Rainier Street in Irving. They didn't say anything about him, yet he says he "loaned her" the truck, the one with Proud Navy Mom license plate frame. Hmm
GUILTY NH - Camden Hughes, 6, suffocated, Hampton, 14 May 2011 #2
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He just keeps saying things that don't add up. I remember distinctly hearing the news saying that the truck was registered to her at an address on Rainier Street in Irving. They didn't say anything about him, yet he says he "loaned her" the truck, the one with Proud Navy Mom license plate frame. Hmm
A motel could mean one motel, but in any case, she still could have been familiar with the people or motels/hotels in the area.
Again, the child was described as not being normally responsive. If he were asleep, why did the manager suggest that he should have been looking around and asking "what am I doing here"?
I don't have an agenda. In my job, we deal with the general public, too. As part of our jobs, we are expected to get help for medical emergencies, and report suspicious activity. If we fail to take reasonable actions, our employer can possibly be sued.
She has no money, she's begging for rooms, she's traveling --- but the child is perfectly safe in that situation? How do you figure that?
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Shat happens, that's how it is in life sometimes.
The motel manager is already wondering if it would have been better to not show admirable compassion and what he gets for it is you wondering if he is the baby daddy and accusations that he is some cold and irresponsible human person.
This little boy deserves more respect than trying to pin the blame on people that acted in a very normal and acceptable manner.
Shat happens, that's how it is in life sometimes.
The motel manager is already wondering if it would have been better to not show admirable compassion and what he gets for it is you wondering if he is the baby daddy and accusations that he is some cold and irresponsible human person.
This little boy deserves more respect than trying to pin the blame on people that acted in a very normal and acceptable manner.
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I can definitely move my children around without waking them. I recently had to wake my son during the night to give him a medicine dose. I had to do this for several nights. Each time, it was all I could do to get him to reach sufficient alertness to take the medicine. I had to have my husband's help to keep him from just slumping back over in the bed. I had to speak loudly and firmly and insist that he take the medicine. It was a lot of work. Once they are soundly asleep, they don't wake up very easily. I can also carry all three of them, even my ten year old, unassisted. I weigh 118lbs, and I don't lift weights or work out.
You have the right to think as you please, however, I disagree with you about the manager's culpability. His statements are being made with the benefit of hindsight. He paid the difference out of his own pocket. He did more for her than many people would have. I do not find fault with any action he took.
As I stated before, the manager should have contacted the owner (or whoever did have the authority) to inform them of the situation.
Handing cash to someone is not helping; he is basically an enabler, that is, someone who allows a person to continue to deny that they have a serious problem and elude real assistance.
He failed to contact the local police despite the fact that the child was obviously in danger.
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A child that was sick with a cold and traveling that found themselves without adequate financial means is not an emergency when someone is kind enough to offer them safe and appropriate shelter. There is a good chance he was planning to refer her to local Traveler's Aid after breakfast and allow her the second night as he mentioned.
His mother was polite, read the Bible, carried her child and wasn't dragging him or leaving him in the car. The child was ill but not suffering a massive seizure, turning blue or fiery red. A cold.
Everyone that ever met that child or was anywhere nearby him is likely asking themselves if they could have done something, woulda, coulda, shoulda. It's a painful regret most of us live with in our daily lives. Don't make it worse by accusing people of being a baby daddy because he was kind enough to help a woman and her child. Please, move on to something else.
The child is NOT dead because of the motel manager and SHAME on you for even suggesting it. It would have been a LOT easier to pick up a phone and let the cops deal with it rather than pull money out of his own pocket to help her.
Because Cam was killed in NH, will JM be tried there and then ultimately be jailed in NH? Just wondering as her family is all in TX. I imagine no one will come from TX to see her at all.
So I am going out on a limb (after reading quite a few of the articles that posters have linked here to WS) (thanks) JM watched him fall asleep and then suffocated him . ??? As one article said "asphyxiation with force".
I am guessing that must have been done in the wee hours of May 14th as Cam's body was found early a.m. and medical examiners determined he had been dead just a few hours when found.
So I am going out on a limb (after reading quite a few of the articles that posters have linked here to WS) (thanks) JM watched him fall asleep and then suffocated him . ??? As one article said "asphyxiation with force".
I am guessing that must have been done in the wee hours of May 14th as Cam's body was found early a.m. and medical examiners determined he had been dead just a few hours when found.
Thank you so much for posting this info. Too many people falsely believe that their report will result in the parent being arrested and thrown into prison for no reason. Police officers, social workers and other professionals who investigate these reports are carefully trained to recognize dangerous situations and to provide help for these troubled families. What if a local police officer had interviewed JM and provided her with a counselor that very evening? Camden might still be alive.
The police are trained to deal with these difficult situations. Handing people cash does not help. She said she had no money. Even if the hotel manager paid for the second night, what was going to happen after that night? She was going to continue to beg and "barter" (which would probably invite an offer of prostitution), and the child would still be hungry and shelterless and sick and endangered.
Most likely she would stay in NH and would be much better off there. She doesn't want to be in TX.
MO is that the DA doesn't have a clear path yet from the ME report, they are still awaiting toxicology. Kinda up in the air until then from what I have seen. Camden wasn't found until later in the day after having been placed at about 0730, having been deceased for a couple of hours or so.
Once again, someone stepped in to help provide adequate necessities. You don't call the police for everything you run across, nor the authorities. It happens a lot that people run into temporary problems and someone is able to assist them <Mod Snip>
It's incredible rare for a kind Good Samaritan find themselves in the situation of finding out the mother and child they just helped ended up in such a tragic circumstance. Highly likely the police would have sent her on her way as well, looking at the motel manager like he was a moron for calling them because a woman asked for a reduced rate on a room for her and her child.
Your "wisdom" is all in Hindsight Micromanagement 101. Oh yeah, and in Baby Daddy identification because a woman asked many motels in any area for a discounted rate and this guy said yes and boy, doesn't the child kind of look like the middle aged, portly guy?
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I was under the impression that her family was really mostly in other places. Her mom is in Nebraska, for example, and she was born in San Jose, California.
I'm interested in the Grand Prarie memorial service, as I live close enough to possibly attend. Anyone have any details on that? What kind of progress has Ian had with the live broadcast?
I was so glad to hear the school was offering counseling services. I'd really want to talk my kids through a situation like this, if they were in a position to be aware of it.
Did y'all read my earlier link on filicide? I was fascinated that 61% of child homiceds are filicides. So sad. Of course I know that most murders are perpetrated against familiar people.
I hadn't heard the school was offering that service, that's good to know. I'm guessing many parents could use some help in knowing what to say, even in dealing with their own grief over the situation.
I don't think I will ever stop being sad over the fact that as humans we can be capable of fracturing into something that violates the most cherished values we have, protecting our children.
I guess as I actually learned on here, Sarah, is that if you are in some deep dark depression as it appears JM was, she cannot make logical decisions which would have been to take Cam and give him to her family to care for until she got her issues under control. I just cannot (in my right mind) fathom killing my child and from all appearances, she really did love Cam. JM sunk really low, so low that she was not in her right mind and killing her sweet baby was the only thing to do. Just so horribly sad.
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Please do not interpret this as cold bloodedness, because I think this woman deserves compassion for something this atrocious....
But why do people with this kind of a disturbance fixate on someone vulnerable like a child, and why didnt she do away with herself in her home state?
I am NOT advocating for it-I am puzzled as to why her solution was to kill an innocent rather than herself.