I brought that up earlier and people got fairly upset by the suggestion of it. If you read up some posters state that Amish are free to leave and return to the community.
When someone leaves the Amish community they still wouldn't do something like that to their family. Just because a person leaves they still dearly love their family and wouldn't do something like this to hurt them. I fear the many misconceptions of the Amish are going to hinder not help this case.