BBM. Indeed, the main question I have at this time is why either side of the family allowed the children to live in such conditions. Until we know more, both sides are responsible for failing to provide the children with a healthy home environment. Millions of grandparents across America step in and make sure their grandkids are taken care of when their parents fail them.
JMO
First a rant. Feel free to ignore it.
Wow. A very smooth way to try to shift the blame for Elaina's mistreatment and death and the desecration of her little corpse from AS and SK to everyone else. Excellent way to muddy the waters!
Also, an interesting way to further injure people already torn apart by AS's actions. On what do you base your opinion that the grandparents didn't try to keep the children in a better environment? The fact that TJ and RS and, IIRC, TS Sr all told AS NOT to take the children to SK and JK's house while giving her options of places to stay speaks volumes. AS wasn't all alone and adrift with those children. IMO, she chose not to take advantage of the help she was offered. IIRC, the grandparents and other family members on both sides offered what they could to help the children.
You're attacking TJ, saying he failed to provide a healthy home. Are you absolving AS from providing for her children? Billions of hard working women around the globe not only look after their children, they find ways of providing for their health. They hold down jobs or they form co-operative or they swap baby-sitting with trusted friends and relatives. Billions of women do not sacrifice their children in order to spend time with drug addicts. Billions of women would put their children first. As he came to accept that the woman he had once loved had not only betrayed him but was hurting their children, he approached CPS for guidance. All of this is his fault in your opinion? AS has nothing to do with it?
And you close your post by accusing TJ of failing his children. In fact, your last statement implies that he should lose custody of his older daughter and that the grandparents should take her away from him. Please explain your position. TJ was working to support his children. If I understand the articles and posts I've read correctly, he was supplying a nurturing environment for his girls when he had custody of them. He was working to legally gain full custody of both girls. He was leading a productive life.
TJ wasn't the one who had custody of Elaina when she died. IMO, and, obviously that of LE, he didn't cause Elaina's death, or mislead anyone about her whereabouts. In fact, AS didn't accuse TJ of hurting Elaina. She accused SK. I'm sure we'll be hearing a different scenario from SK. And at this point, I don't know how or by whom the injuries that AS described to her neighbour really happened. However, it can be proven that AS did nothing to look after her baby once they had happened. The child endangerment charge, as far as I know, is still standing against AS. Not TJ. CPS considers TJ worthy of having custody of KS.
TJ didn't fail Elaina and he didn't fail KS. AS did. The grandparents didn't fail their grandchildren. AS failed her children. Both of them. She failed badly as a mother. She failed horribly as a human being.
End of rant.
If you believe that AS's involvement in the death of her baby, Elaina, has not been proven to your satisfaction, fair enough. If you feel that everyone else is responsible for AS making bad choices, ok. You have every right to your feelings, and it's good that someone like you is willing to be the devil's advocate. It's good to have someone saying that everything may not be as it seems or that there are other equally valid ways to interpret a set of facts. I just disagree with both your interpretation and the way you have presented it.
If I've mis-spoken about anything, I apologize. Could FM, or CC, or someone with more knowledge about this correct the errors in what I've said? Thanks.
We're one day closer to Justice for Elaina.