I so sorry to hear what you and your dad went through. How heartless.
Like I said, I am thankful I never had to be tied up with Medicare on either of my parents. I have heard horror stories just like yours Kaen. You are right, all of that could have waited. I don't even like visiting nursing homes and they are so depressing. I find some of the staff so rude without any compassion and I find myself wanting to say something even though I didn't know the patients. I notice they seem to be the worst to those who don't have any family members that come to see them when they are the very ones that need a kind word the most.
I remember one time when I was a young woman I went to visit my grandmother in the nursing home and at the entry door a elderly lady was always there sitting in her wheelchair as if she was waiting on someone. One day she asked me if was I her daughter and I knew then she must be suffering from dementia so I sat down and told her, yes, and told her I was so happy to see her. When left I hugged her always telling her I would see her soon. After then she would ask me the same question every time I came and I always said I was her daughter and spent time talking with her before going to my grandmother's room. One day she wasn't there and I asked the nurse about her, and she had passed away. Even though I didn't know her, I was so sad that she passed away without any family members caring about her.
IMO