I'm so angry right now I could spit fire. I was reading the Abuse of Caylee thread :steamed: no :censored: no :curses: no :cursing: no :dervish: no :burn: yes that one :burn:.
It is very obvious there are some people who post here who have no idea what it's like to live with someone like KC. That's not your fault, good for you that you've never had that special kind of relationship, I wish no one ever had to go through it. But for others to imply that GA OR CA are responsible for what CA subjected Caylee to. Just burns me up.
To say CA didn't do enough to protect Caylee, :burn: I believe with all my being that Caylee was CA's life, if she only knew half of what that baby was going through there is no doubt in my mind she would have locked KC out of the house in a heartbeat. Yes, parental love can be blind but also when someone like KC is only letting you see what she wants you to see... there are no special glasses you can look through to see the truth. CA could only see what KC let her see. CA said herself she never knew KC and Ricardo "dated", when KC was shacked up with TonE, CA thought KC and Caylee were with Jeff (an old friend from HS) and his parents! The few times Caylee didn't sleep in her own bed, CA thought she was with a Nanny. Yes, she didn't know who the nanny was, but CA was trying to make KC into a responsible parent, how responsible could she be if CA over looked her every move? CA has to live with her blindness for the rest of her life, don't make it any worse than it is.
Saying the A's just needed to report KC to family services and Caylee would have been saved is so very naive. My ex took our 5 y o daughter into a pool bar. He left her bellied up to the bar drinking Shirley Temple's while he drank beer and played pool all afternoon, into the nite. This was "father-daughter bonding'' in his book. Did I call CPS? You can bet your a&& I did. Did it help? NO, no, no. They checked the place out and discovered it served finger food. That made it a "family establishment" and there was nothing they could do. To the credit of social worker who checked out the place, she did try to explain to my ex this wasn't the healthiest place for a 5 y o to be, but she couldn't force him to stop, nor could she threaten any retaliation if he wouldn't take her advice.
A short time later my (now 6 y o) daughter came home and told me (excitedly) that she and a little boy (age 8) got punished by her dad for having SEX, evidentially it wasn't the first time they were caught in the act, (hence the punishment) later she told me the next time they "had sex" she got to be on top. For just a minute think about how it would feel to know your child, your cherished baby daughter, at 6 years old had been introduced to a completely grown up world. I thought her innocence had been stolen forever and I thought the little boy must have been witness to something horrendous (in my eyes) to let this be something for him to know how to do. Once again I find out from CPS there is nothing they can do for my daughter (if there was 3 years between the kids ages they could have helped her). As it turned out for this little boy knew, penetration wasn't one of them. One good thing came out of it, the little boy it turns out had been abused and he was able to be helped out of the situation, because of my phone call. CPS is not the be all and end all to saving our children. If we're lucky we get someone who cares, and tries, and does what they can in their limited abilities with in the limits of the law.
All we can ever do as loving parents or grandparents is the best we can do. Don't hand out blame anywhere except to the guilty party. In this case KC Anthony.
(Clink!)
