katiecoolady
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I'm ready for this in depth discussion---where are the resident experts?opcorn:
I'll start in on the popcorn while you start the discussion.
I'm ready for this in depth discussion---where are the resident experts?opcorn:
Does Borderline mean Bi-Polar? If so, I know 2 of them, a female and a male. The male being my BIL unfortunately,and he does have a rollercoaster relationship with us- alternating hating us and being okay "Man, I love you!"(huggy). He's scary because he's a huge guy and has a history of substance abuse. He particularly hates my husband- (he was married to DH's sister), but that's not why.I have family members who have BPD and yes, EXHAUSTING is the word. I think it's a lot like alcoholism, in that it is a family disease--everyone around the person suffers tremendously. Jeez the drama, the manufactured drama, the accusations, the roller coaster relationships, the manipulation. Really, a relationship with a borderline is like having a tiger by the tail.
And what's worse, the two borderline's in my family got much worse when they hit middle age ---- the crazy increased and burned bright. I have one who is past that age and one who is in the middle. The older one's crazy has mellowed with age, the middle-aged one is in raging crazy right now.
It's too bad, if you get near to try and help, you end up getting bit.
I'll take my brother with his diagnosis of Schizophrenia any day of the week over a Personality Disorder. Who, also, by the way, after 20 years of extreme symptoms is about 99% symptom free. This last year has been walking in a miracle. It's like he "woke up" like those patients in the movie Awakenings. My brother is back...after all these years. Tangent but just wanted to share because it's the biggest joy and light in my life.
They break up and become friends with benefits. JA clearly cannot handle this evidenced by the stalking. If someone is not handling a break up and a FWB deal that they continue to have strong feelings and want more from the relationship. Despite this, he continues to have sex with her and go on (and completely paying for) mini-vacations with her. He was using her.
I do not see how his behavior can be interpreted as kind or honorable. I also do not see how one could argue that he was doing all this because he was afraid of further abuse or that she would kill herself.
Am I missing something? Maybe I'm crazy - projecting too much lol.
Yeah, but who really initiated the breakup, and who re-initiated the sex? We only have Jodi's side of the story and she's a liar...They break up and become friends with benefits. JA clearly cannot handle this evidenced by the stalking. If someone is not handling a break up and a FWB deal that they continue to have strong feelings and want more from the relationship. Despite this, he continues to have sex with her and go on (and completely paying for) mini-vacations with her. He was using her.
I do not see how his behavior can be interpreted as kind or honorable. I also do not see how one could argue that he was doing all this because he was afraid of further abuse or that she would kill herself.
Am I missing something? Maybe I'm crazy - projecting too much lol.
I'm ready for this in depth discussion---where are the resident experts?opcorn:
Does Borderline mean Bi-Polar? If so, I know 2 of them, a female and a male. The male being my BIL unfortunately,and he does have a rollercoaster relationship with us- alternating hating us and being okay "Man, I love you!"(huggy). He's scary because he's a huge guy and has a history of substance abuse. He particularly hates my husband- (he was married to DH's sister), but that's not why.
I would agree. His continuing to engage her wasn't kind or honorable. I would also agree he enjoyed the sex, is it using when the other person is using sex to manipulate? Or is it a push? I think we can agree they used each other for sex. Both had their own reasons and agenda for doing so.
they engaged each other....it wasn't kind or honorable of her to continue to engage him for sex either.
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Women biologically are not wired to be detached when it comes to sexuality.
This isn't for the truth of the matter but just to share. I once asked one of our Psychologists on our unit what he saw as the difference between a Borderline and a Sociopath and he said "a sociopath is a borderline who's crossed the line in to criminal behavior". Thoughts? All of these personality disorders are so blended too. I mean I never met a borderline who wasn't also quite Narcissistic.
They break up and become friends with benefits. JA clearly cannot handle this evidenced by the stalking. If someone is not handling a break up and a FWB deal that they continue to have strong feelings and want more from the relationship. Despite this, he continues to have sex with her and go on (and completely paying for) mini-vacations with her. He was using her.
I do not see how his behavior can be interpreted as kind or honorable. I also do not see how one could argue that he was doing all this because he was afraid of further abuse or that she would kill herself.
Am I missing something? Maybe I'm crazy - projecting too much lol.
I'll start in on the popcorn while you start the discussion.![]()
This isn't for the truth of the matter but just to share. I once asked one of our Psychologists on our unit what he saw as the difference between a Borderline and a Sociopath and he said "a sociopath is a borderline who's crossed the line in to criminal behavior". Thoughts? All of these personality disorders are so blended too. I mean I never met a borderline who wasn't also quite Narcissistic.
Agreed! She knew he was extremely conflicted because of his commitment to his faith, and yet she didn't say, "No Travis, we can't do this!"they engaged each other....it wasn't kind or honorable of her to continue to engage him for sex either.
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When I read what yours did...It took me awhile to even process it. Horrifying !!!
Does Borderline mean Bi-Polar? If so, I know 2 of them, a female and a male. The male being my BIL unfortunately,and he does have a rollercoaster relationship with us- alternating hating us and being okay "Man, I love you!"(huggy). He's scary because he's a huge guy and has a history of substance abuse. He particularly hates my husband- (he was married to DH's sister), but that's not why.
This isn't for the truth of the matter but just to share. I once asked one of our Psychologists on our unit what he saw as the difference between a Borderline and a Sociopath and he said "a sociopath is a borderline who's crossed the line in to criminal behavior". Thoughts? All of these personality disorders are so blended too. I mean I never met a borderline who wasn't also quite Narcissistic.
Does Borderline mean Bi-Polar? If so, I know 2 of them, a female and a male. The male being my BIL unfortunately,and he does have a rollercoaster relationship with us- alternating hating us and being okay "Man, I love you!"(huggy). He's scary because he's a huge guy and has a history of substance abuse. He particularly hates my husband- (he was married to DH's sister), but that's not why.