Agree 100%Do we think they even had a funeral. AS says he was not invited to the funeral, and doesn't know where the grave is. But is there a grave? Was there any kind of funeral?
I am not sure Mom and Grandma would have organised a formal, funeral , expecting others to publicly attend. I would think it would be more like a cremation, and perhaps a very very small number of close family members would pay their respects.
I don't think there was really anything to invite AS too. JMO