on 12/23, where she was sitting on the stairs crying and said that she didn't feel pretty.
Aww, poor JonBenet. I hope someone told her that it doesn’t matter if she is pretty or not, though she was, she was still worthy of love, life and enjoying and embracing both. Along those lines what people think of her looks mattered far less than the warm, comforting and invigorating feeling one gets when just standing outside and absorbing the sunlight.
Plus, as
@Ponytale and others emphasized, her parents or at least PR loved her and not because she was talented achiever who won pageants and played musical instruments but just because she just was. In a podcast I listened to, it seemed heavily implied that the only reason PR got JBR involved in pageantry is because she herself competed and loved the culture and wanted to use it to bond with her daughter. It was out of love. From her interviews PR probably would never want her daughter to struggle with such insecurity and pressures, especially so young and left the pageant scene altogether for JonBenet Ramsey. In my mind, if they had a chance and the murder never happened, a lot of parents or former beauty queens would probably want to reassure her that she was her parents’ life, their love, their flesh and blood and would always be their daughter, and they loved her before she grew into a pretty little girl, they would love her after she grew into a beauty like mother and sisters and they would love her long after. And anway, she is just a kid. She should be enjoying just playing with the other ones, getting caught up in some adventure and sending follow-up letters to Santa, not worrying over the features reflected to her in a mirror.
Also, I never watched any of JBR’s pageantry videos, or any pageantry ones, including adults, since watching Miss Universe over 20 years ago but I would imagine or tell her if I could that she didn’t just win non-stop because she was pretty but because she had talent and charisma. Nonetheless, if she wants to quit and bond with her mom another way, as indicated by one of Paugh, that is okay too.
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However, contrary to my perception from Arndt’s notes and articles, Linda Wilcox argues in Shiller’s book that the attention and affection that PR lavished on JBR was the result of both JBR being a strong competitor in the pageants and her talent in her music and dance lessons. It seems implied from Wilcox’s interview that JBR was a viewed as means to end by her mother because her gifts or talents could be used PR could build a reputation and an ego on. Prior to JBR’s achievements in these different activities, Wilcox said she was left pretty much solely under the care of a nanny, was limited to wearing cast-offs from Burke that didn’t fit properly and wasn’t awarded an ounce of her of mother’s affection as all of it went to Burke none to spare for PR’s second born. In that case, considering JBR was too sick to participate in the pageant that took place right before Christmas, according to medical records of her doctor’s appointments and reasons for them, could her insecurity and withdrawal from the rest of the party on the 23rd stem from feelings of shame and being ostracized or excluded from her mother’s love as punishment if indeed PR was more in lined with Wilcox’s opinions?
Not necessarily stating that it does or that PR was not a loving mother who would cause such harm to her son or daughter. Or that PR is the cause for the change in JBR’s behavior. I was just thinking and applying a plausible scenario that came from what Wilcox has said earlier. I also think, IMO, that if PR as posited in Shiller’s book could be so cruel or cold towards her children, it would, for me , raise the plausibility of PDI.
Of course, I should mention again this is just one perspective from one individual who knew the Ramseys and the children very well and it does differ from what Dectective Arndt, friends of the family and relatives perceptions of PR and her parenting and relationship with her daughter so take from it what you will or readers are free to decide, who, if anyone, perceptions they are more likely accept or give credibility to.
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