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And kindly publish all the answers to the above questions here so WE can gain insight and find little Caylee!!!
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And kindly publish all the answers to the above questions here so WE can gain insight and find little Caylee!!!
Not gonna happen. If that would help keep Casey out of trouble sure they would do it but otherwise nah don't count on it
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LOL, .........running right back out of this thread.
Ok, I'll try to list something supportive.
Got it.
If it weren't for you, Casey would not look like she does, and that grandbaby would not be so cute.
All I could come up with.
Ok, I'll try to list something supportive.
Got it.
If it weren't for you, Casey would not look like she does, and that grandbaby would not be so cute.
All I could come up with.
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The very first thing Cindy needs to do is to apologize to LE and millions of Americans for her outrageous behavior since the beginning! She has insulted our intelligence by trying to convince us that the car didn't smell of decomposition, but rather rotting pizza. She has insulted our intelligence by trying to maintain that Casey's lies have merit and that someone kidnapped Caylee. She has tried to undermine LE's investigation into the disappearance of Caylee. Both Cindy and George have fought having the truth revealed, and have made fools of themselves. A sincere apology is necessary before anything else!
Then, Cindy and George need to revoke bond and send Casey back to jail with the admonition that she's going to be there until she cooperates with LE and tells the truth about what happened to Caylee and where Caylee can be found.
Thirdly, Cindy must call Tim Miller and apologize to him for her rude words, and beg him to return to Orlando to search for Caylee. If and when Tim returns, Cindy and George need to go to the command post every morning and help by passing out water and snacks to searchers. They need to turn the funds collected for the search for Caylee into providing support for the search effort.
Fourth, Cindy and George need to sit down with LE and tell them everything they know.
Only when Cindy and George do all the above things, will they begin to resolve this very sad situation.
Then, Cindy and George need to revoke bond and send Casey back to jail with the admonition that she's going to be there until she cooperates with LE and tells the truth about what happened to Caylee and where Caylee can be found.
Thirdly, Cindy must call Tim Miller and apologize to him for her rude words, and beg him to return to Orlando to search for Caylee. If and when Tim returns, Cindy and George need to go to the command post every morning and help by passing out water and snacks to searchers. They need to turn the funds collected for the search for Caylee into providing support for the search effort.
Fourth, Cindy and George need to sit down with LE and tell them everything they know.
Only when Cindy and George do all the above things, will they begin to resolve this very sad situation.
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Cindy, watch the movie "The Bad Seed" with Patty McCormick.
Unfortunately, even in the best of families, there can be bad seeds, phycopaths, narcissistic murderers, etc.
Mark Hacking's father is a physician. Scott Peterson apparently came from good upbringing??
Cindy you have one in your family and you are enabling her. Just fighting with protesters, refusing to believe the truth about Caylee, staying positive about your monster of a daughter, etc. is ENABLING HER. You must stop.
Unfortunately, even in the best of families, there can be bad seeds, phycopaths, narcissistic murderers, etc.
Mark Hacking's father is a physician. Scott Peterson apparently came from good upbringing??
Cindy you have one in your family and you are enabling her. Just fighting with protesters, refusing to believe the truth about Caylee, staying positive about your monster of a daughter, etc. is ENABLING HER. You must stop.
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My advice to Cindy would be:
Stop enabling - I made that mistake with my first husband who was an alcoholic.
Take down that yellow tape and tie some yellow ribbons around the trees.
Shake KC and watch her teeth rattle until you find your granddaughter. I'm not telling you to do anything that I would not do myself.
My daughter is 38 years old and she knows if she lost my grand child I would kick her a$$ from N.C. to California.
Most important: PRAY "NOT MY WILL BUT THINE BE DONE"
GOD BLESS CAYLEE:yellow:
Stop enabling - I made that mistake with my first husband who was an alcoholic.
Take down that yellow tape and tie some yellow ribbons around the trees.
Shake KC and watch her teeth rattle until you find your granddaughter. I'm not telling you to do anything that I would not do myself.
My daughter is 38 years old and she knows if she lost my grand child I would kick her a$$ from N.C. to California.
Most important: PRAY "NOT MY WILL BUT THINE BE DONE"
GOD BLESS CAYLEE:yellow:
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Cindy
I hope you have the support of everyone around you for the coming months. Continue seeing the therapist you were going to before all this happened. You are probably still coming to terms with the fact that Casey is not the daughter she used to be, don't waste time on who's fault it is. Just face it head on and get as much information as possible on the best way to deal with Casey today.
My daughter was diagnosed with bpd (boarderline personality disorder) when she was 23,
I wasted months trying to figure out who this person was that looked just like the daughter I raised but acted like a stranger. Once she was diagnosed I had to relearn everything I thought I knew about being her mother. The love for her didn't change but everything else had to be started from scratch. It was probably the hardest thing I've ever gone through. So get the professional help you need to start being the mother Casey needs today.
As long as Casey is living in your home and you are supporting her, do not allow anyone to tell you what you can and can not talk to her about. You are still the parent and she needs you regardless of how she acts or what she says.
The other people posting here have given you some great advice, think about taking it.
I hope you have the support of everyone around you for the coming months. Continue seeing the therapist you were going to before all this happened. You are probably still coming to terms with the fact that Casey is not the daughter she used to be, don't waste time on who's fault it is. Just face it head on and get as much information as possible on the best way to deal with Casey today.
My daughter was diagnosed with bpd (boarderline personality disorder) when she was 23,
I wasted months trying to figure out who this person was that looked just like the daughter I raised but acted like a stranger. Once she was diagnosed I had to relearn everything I thought I knew about being her mother. The love for her didn't change but everything else had to be started from scratch. It was probably the hardest thing I've ever gone through. So get the professional help you need to start being the mother Casey needs today.
As long as Casey is living in your home and you are supporting her, do not allow anyone to tell you what you can and can not talk to her about. You are still the parent and she needs you regardless of how she acts or what she says.
The other people posting here have given you some great advice, think about taking it.
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I think Cindy and the rest of the Anthony family should leave the house. You had mentioned a safe house before as a possibility for Casey out on bail, and now I think that you ALL need it. Living in the midst of that media frenzy is impossible when coping with everything else. Go to a great hotel who will understand and not allow the media into your "territory." Use the house for a gathering place for your search and headquarters, but move your personal lives away.
Personally I would go absolutely crazy living there, and I can't imagine how difficult it must be to never be able to truly grieve or come to terms with such heartache that you must have to face, no matter what the truth is. Your family has been dealt a horrific blow, no matter what answers finally come to light. You're a mother and a grandmother to two people who may be lost to you forever, even if one is still on this earth in jail. You're the wife, sister, daughter, mother, and friend to many who are also personally impacted. I send my prayers and well wishes to you and despite any turn that this case takes, I know your pain is real and it's terrible.
If you are a Christian, please pray for the strength and the ability to get through this. The Serenity prayer is an overdone cliche sometimes, but it's the perfect prayer that we should all be praying--may God grant you the wisdom and serenity that you need right now.
When I see you in the media, I see so much angst and terror and anger and confusion. All of this is perfectly understandable, but the frantic mix of emotions are only keeping the pain and anger boiling. Please find your peace somewhere outside of the storm you're living in every second.
Again, I do pray for you and your family.
Alisha
Personally I would go absolutely crazy living there, and I can't imagine how difficult it must be to never be able to truly grieve or come to terms with such heartache that you must have to face, no matter what the truth is. Your family has been dealt a horrific blow, no matter what answers finally come to light. You're a mother and a grandmother to two people who may be lost to you forever, even if one is still on this earth in jail. You're the wife, sister, daughter, mother, and friend to many who are also personally impacted. I send my prayers and well wishes to you and despite any turn that this case takes, I know your pain is real and it's terrible.
If you are a Christian, please pray for the strength and the ability to get through this. The Serenity prayer is an overdone cliche sometimes, but it's the perfect prayer that we should all be praying--may God grant you the wisdom and serenity that you need right now.
When I see you in the media, I see so much angst and terror and anger and confusion. All of this is perfectly understandable, but the frantic mix of emotions are only keeping the pain and anger boiling. Please find your peace somewhere outside of the storm you're living in every second.
Again, I do pray for you and your family.
Alisha
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The only way Cindy is going to gain any credibility or respect, is to understand that everyone believes she is harboring a killer. She got her out like a good mom should, but that did nothing and Caylee is still missing and KC is still mute. Now try it LE's way, put her back in and let her sit and suffer. When she goes to trial on the economic charges it will be considered time served and she will get out sooner.
I agree if this was me I'd be sitting in jail. My mom would kill me anyway so I'd want to stay in jail. This is something Cindy should think about. The ball is in her court and she should do everything possible to make Casey tell the truth. She has never stood up to her ever in her life so more than likely she isn't going to now. She should man up and make her talk though. If she isn't going to do that than send her back to the slammer
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Take your anger out on Casey, and share what she's told you with LE for Caylee's sake. After all.......you are the one who first reported this.
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Stay away from the media and protestors! Stay OUT of your front yard when they are around, don't be tempted to yell back at them or confront them in any way. If you are out of sight, then they will get bored and go home eventually.
Next time KC is arrested, let her sit in jail and don't pay the bond to get her out. More importantly, don't coddle her... she's grown now, she's not a child anymore. She is going to have to face the consequences of what she's done sooner or later.
Next time KC is arrested, let her sit in jail and don't pay the bond to get her out. More importantly, don't coddle her... she's grown now, she's not a child anymore. She is going to have to face the consequences of what she's done sooner or later.
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These are some very good posts. Remember that old greeting card that read "It's you and me against the world"? I think you have bunkered into that mentality, Cindy but it needn't be like this. We all need to back up and let you go through the denial stage of your grief as your own att'y so ably explained. Until you have worked through that, you shouldn't be making appearances. When you do, you displace your anger onto the wrong targets and lose public support. Give yourself time. One fact was always obvious. You cherished Caylee. So much it makes me cry as I write this. I too am in a rage and howling grief over what has happened. You have every right to feel what you're feeling. Don't misdirect it.
Cindy,
I know you, too, are a believer, so tonight, after dinner, go where you won't be disturbed, in private. Get on your knees and humbly, sincerely ask God for forgiveness of your sins and transgressions (we ALL have them). Talk to God--it's just you and Him. Say it. All of it. Talk to Him as long as you wish. Ask for his forgiveness and then, LET Him forgive you. Accept His forgiveness, His Grace and feel His love surround you. Feel His love surround you. Accept it. Then, forgive yourself. THANK God for your blessings and for giving you the strength and conviction to,
1. Live in truth and sincerity from this point forward. The past is water under the bridge. Allow the anger, hurt, blame, worry, guilt, anxiety, angst, whatever, to just fall away. Live in Truth every day. Live in Truth every day.
2. Then, go clean something. You keep your house orderly and neat and this will help you focus for,
3. Go to Casey in private. Hold her hand and ask for her forgiveness for your shortcomings (again, we all have them). Mean it with all your heart. Ask her to pray with you and humbly and sincerely ask for God's forgiveness for her sins (silently). Have her ACCEPT God's forgiveness. Then, she must forgive herself--completely, totally. Wrap your arms around her and let her feel your love. You have so much influence with Casey--she loves you so much and desperately wants your approval.
4. Tomorrow morning, phone the counselor you met with before and make an appointment and follow her suggestions. Get Casey into counseling as soon as you can.
5. Go to LE and ask how you can help to bring Caylee home to be with her family. Assist them every way you can. Help them. Every day 8-5, just like a job. Bring Caylee home. She is missing you all so. Follow their direction, suggestion and work with them honestly and sincerely every day until that baby is home with her family.
6. Get back to basics and demand truth every day. Every day. Ask your pastor for support. Google and read "Just For Today". SLOW down. Pray and listen for guidance. Listen. And at the end of the day when your head hits the pillow give it all to God. I pray every night, "This day is done. I give it to You. Please bring me rest so that I may serve fully and completely tomorrow." Give it all to God.
This is all I know to do to support you. I will continue to pray for you, George, Lee, Casey and Caylee.
I know you, too, are a believer, so tonight, after dinner, go where you won't be disturbed, in private. Get on your knees and humbly, sincerely ask God for forgiveness of your sins and transgressions (we ALL have them). Talk to God--it's just you and Him. Say it. All of it. Talk to Him as long as you wish. Ask for his forgiveness and then, LET Him forgive you. Accept His forgiveness, His Grace and feel His love surround you. Feel His love surround you. Accept it. Then, forgive yourself. THANK God for your blessings and for giving you the strength and conviction to,
1. Live in truth and sincerity from this point forward. The past is water under the bridge. Allow the anger, hurt, blame, worry, guilt, anxiety, angst, whatever, to just fall away. Live in Truth every day. Live in Truth every day.
2. Then, go clean something. You keep your house orderly and neat and this will help you focus for,
3. Go to Casey in private. Hold her hand and ask for her forgiveness for your shortcomings (again, we all have them). Mean it with all your heart. Ask her to pray with you and humbly and sincerely ask for God's forgiveness for her sins (silently). Have her ACCEPT God's forgiveness. Then, she must forgive herself--completely, totally. Wrap your arms around her and let her feel your love. You have so much influence with Casey--she loves you so much and desperately wants your approval.
4. Tomorrow morning, phone the counselor you met with before and make an appointment and follow her suggestions. Get Casey into counseling as soon as you can.
5. Go to LE and ask how you can help to bring Caylee home to be with her family. Assist them every way you can. Help them. Every day 8-5, just like a job. Bring Caylee home. She is missing you all so. Follow their direction, suggestion and work with them honestly and sincerely every day until that baby is home with her family.
6. Get back to basics and demand truth every day. Every day. Ask your pastor for support. Google and read "Just For Today". SLOW down. Pray and listen for guidance. Listen. And at the end of the day when your head hits the pillow give it all to God. I pray every night, "This day is done. I give it to You. Please bring me rest so that I may serve fully and completely tomorrow." Give it all to God.
This is all I know to do to support you. I will continue to pray for you, George, Lee, Casey and Caylee.
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First, take care of YOURSELF. You aren't good to anyone else, unless you look after yourself. Seek therapeutic help where ever you can, from whomever can help you, i.e., minister, best friend, family member, etc. Don't read the blogs, websites, etc. -- it only flames the emotions and serves no real purpose. Keep your focus on your family, and yes, that includes your daughter. Try to stay centered and focused - eat nourishing food to keep up your stamina -- you're going to need it. Try to line up as much help as you can re: cooked meals, cleaning, lawncare -- anything you can do to lighten your burdens. Listen to your attorney's advice...if he says stay inside, stay inside. If he says do not speak with the media and/or the protesters outside, listen to him. Do not engage with protesters, as it will most likely lead to nothing more than more grief, for you and your family. You have enough on your plate as it is, without fanning the flames further. Stay inside your home, as it is most likely the safest place for you to be right now. Be a good mother to Casey -- be there to listen to her if she needs someone to talk to -- if she feels she can confide in you, help her to. Stay close to your husband -- love him, treat him as your best friend -- you need one another now more than ever before. This is a true test for your family -- do not let what others may say or think about you, interfere with your relationships with loved ones.
God Bless this family. I sincerely hope, for the sake of this family and all those who profess to be concerned, the monstrosity of a case ends soon.
God Bless this family. I sincerely hope, for the sake of this family and all those who profess to be concerned, the monstrosity of a case ends soon.
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I have often defended Cindy in my posts.. even to the point that they have been removed.
I unfortunately have had an experience that gives light to the emotional H*LL Cindy is going through.
10 years ago.. my godfather, a man that raised me, ( father left at age 2 ) was murdered by his step-daughter.
He was a man that adopted her children when she had lost her way. ( Prostitution, drugs... ) He was a man who took on a family of 5 abused children. ( sexually as well as physical ) He was a beautiful man.
When he was murdered... his wife... ( The MOTHER of the murderer ) was torn in a way I HAVE NEVER SEEN BEFORE..
.. OR SINCE.
Her daughter murdered her AMAZING HUSBAND.
I of course was DYING of grief. ANGRY.. like no anger I have ever felt. That girl.. TOOK the best thing that ever happened to that family. She took the best thing that ever happened to her own CHILDREN. TOOK the best thing that ever happened to my young life.
Now, imagine this woman. Her rescueing husband has just been murdered... by her own daughter.
Imagine.. the split in emotion one must feel.
I watched her, deal with the loss of the BEST thing that ever happened in her life. I watched her deal with HER own daughter being the killer! The UNBELIEVABLE pull from BOTH directions. It really is unbearable to really TRUELY think of.
This is a woman I LOVED. Defending her daughter. Missing the love of her life.
I can never describe the mixture of emotion this woman had to deal with.
In the end... I chose to be there for her. She was left with nothing but absolute heartbreak. She was a mother. She was a wife.. in LOVE. The goodness in the man that was murdered - STEERED ME. How could I blame, mistreat or defamate the woman who loved both of them? She lost most.. needs me most.
I know we all want Casey in jail. Cindy will not be THE reason she is or isn't. She has the most unimaginable place in the world right now.
SHE HAS MY LOVE & RESPECT.
PERIOD.
I unfortunately have had an experience that gives light to the emotional H*LL Cindy is going through.
10 years ago.. my godfather, a man that raised me, ( father left at age 2 ) was murdered by his step-daughter.
He was a man that adopted her children when she had lost her way. ( Prostitution, drugs... ) He was a man who took on a family of 5 abused children. ( sexually as well as physical ) He was a beautiful man.
When he was murdered... his wife... ( The MOTHER of the murderer ) was torn in a way I HAVE NEVER SEEN BEFORE..
.. OR SINCE.
Her daughter murdered her AMAZING HUSBAND.
I of course was DYING of grief. ANGRY.. like no anger I have ever felt. That girl.. TOOK the best thing that ever happened to that family. She took the best thing that ever happened to her own CHILDREN. TOOK the best thing that ever happened to my young life.
Now, imagine this woman. Her rescueing husband has just been murdered... by her own daughter.
Imagine.. the split in emotion one must feel.
I watched her, deal with the loss of the BEST thing that ever happened in her life. I watched her deal with HER own daughter being the killer! The UNBELIEVABLE pull from BOTH directions. It really is unbearable to really TRUELY think of.
This is a woman I LOVED. Defending her daughter. Missing the love of her life.
I can never describe the mixture of emotion this woman had to deal with.
In the end... I chose to be there for her. She was left with nothing but absolute heartbreak. She was a mother. She was a wife.. in LOVE. The goodness in the man that was murdered - STEERED ME. How could I blame, mistreat or defamate the woman who loved both of them? She lost most.. needs me most.
I know we all want Casey in jail. Cindy will not be THE reason she is or isn't. She has the most unimaginable place in the world right now.
SHE HAS MY LOVE & RESPECT.
PERIOD.
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Cindy:
First, I have to tell you, I have a three year old grandson... he and his seven year old sister are the lights of my life. They are my heart.. only another grandmother can understand the immense love of a grandmother for her grandchildren...
I put myself in your shoes... and here is what I would want to know... where did my daughter leave my grandaughter??? What happened... did my daughter have a psychotic break??? Could be... , if she did, then, maybe she cannot remember what she did or where she left her. How can I get the truth out of her -- because that is all I care about. I need to know where my baby is??? I cannot live without her... without knowing what happened to her... without knowing if she is hungry or cold or crying.... the truth.. I need to know the truth.. how can I get the truth and nothing but the truth-- hypnosis? sodium pentothal (sp), (truth serum)?
First, I have to tell you, I have a three year old grandson... he and his seven year old sister are the lights of my life. They are my heart.. only another grandmother can understand the immense love of a grandmother for her grandchildren...
I put myself in your shoes... and here is what I would want to know... where did my daughter leave my grandaughter??? What happened... did my daughter have a psychotic break??? Could be... , if she did, then, maybe she cannot remember what she did or where she left her. How can I get the truth out of her -- because that is all I care about. I need to know where my baby is??? I cannot live without her... without knowing what happened to her... without knowing if she is hungry or cold or crying.... the truth.. I need to know the truth.. how can I get the truth and nothing but the truth-- hypnosis? sodium pentothal (sp), (truth serum)?
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