LM finished college and grad school and began working for TrueCar in 2020. I would be very surprised if the engineers at TrueCar were not required to WFH at that time and possibly for years. Many of my engineer friends (not at TrueCar) were mandatory WFH until anywhere between Fall 2021 and Summer 2022. Because LM almost definitely started as a remote worker, it might also be the case that he didn’t live near a TrueCar office, even if they eventually had an optional or mandatory return to office initiative.
For West Coast company tech workers, it was not unusual during that time to work from Hawaii rather than WFH. Why not, right? That LM chose to rent a live/work cooperative space instead of a solo space suggests to me that he valued the social aspect.
There are fixed terms at the live/work place in HI, so it is not surprising to me that he stayed only 6 months and later rented an apartment. While renting the apartment, he also joined a shared work space outside of his apartment. Everything suggests to me that he enjoyed social interaction until he very suddenly didn’t sometime in 2024.
As for long-term friendships, some were observable. In one case, a long-time friend posted about him in caring terms immediately after his arrest and it was observable from each of their instagram accounts that they’d been friends for many years, celebrating birthdays together, etc. He has since made his account private and I can understand why. For starters, his caring sentiments were polarizing and garnered negative attention.
I personally have not seen any indication that LM did not have long-term, stable friendships, that is until he suddenly isolated from friends and family in 2024.
The only nomadic element that stands out to me is that he posted about his goal to pare down to one backpack for travel and expressed pride in April 2024 that he had achieved that goal for the previous two months while traveling through Asia. He thought it made it easier to be fully present and made travel feel more like an adventure. So it is possible he would have embraced a nomadic lifestyle in a sliding doors universe in which he did not commit murder and throw away his freedom, but I don’t consider his move to Hawaii to be indicative of a preference for a nomadic lifestyle as it was likely an appealing alternative to WFH, at least initially. He appears to have rented two places while there over a period of almost three years, both in Honolulu, which also doesn’t seem particularly nomadic to me.
Even setting the pandemic aside, in my experience, it’s quite common for young adults of that age to move around a bit, often for work related reasons, and without the intention of embracing a digital nomad lifestyle.
MOO.
Two things that surprise me.
One, he was obviously very bright, had two degrees from UPenn, an Ivy League school. After that…tell me, is TrueCar a well-paying company? To my shame, I never heard of it. Also, wasn’t his degree in engineering? And the job was not even a programmer? I saw something like data entry, am I wrong? I don’t have LinkedIn on this device, but I remember his profile still listing him with Truecars, so it may be outdated. I’d expect someone with his potential and East Coast base to interview at really well-paying, huge IT companies, tbh.
Did Luigi put himself through too much stress trying to squeeze two degrees into a short period of time? BS and MS in 4 years, isn’t it too high stress? If upon graduation, plans of settling down or “buying a house”, the most costly plan I often hear vocalized, were not in Luigi’s immediate future, then of course the idea to live in a sunny paradise colony was not bad. Still, I see a certain crack appearing specifically after graduation. He worked too hard; most grads understand that after graduation you start investing in your resume.
But perhaps Luidgi was burned out? Something seems wrong in his college planning. I don’t know if it was the reflection of the family’s pressure to achieve, or his own wish to go through college fast and move away from his family? A plan like BS - then taking a gap year for travels - then MS - would have been better.
If I were to guess, Luigi himself wanted to separate from Maryland. Then settling in Hawaii could be an attempt to grow socially, but look how lonely he ends up. Ex-roommates who don’t answer letters, family not on the radar, his school friends, UPenn mates…there surely is no shortage of people stating now that he was “well-liked”, but where were they during his last two years?
From 23 to 30, finding own apartment, traveling to beautiful places one couldn’t previously achieve on a student’s budget, making new relationships while still reaching out to the old ones, is an expected lifestyle, especially for young IT specialists. Two things are missing in this equation:
- a steady job that would match his potential, and
- a steady group around him.
He virtually falls off all radars. But all of them, to think of.
Is it his spine? Does his physical pain partially reflect emotional stress? Or “something else”?
Just a thought:
1) Just questioning. Could there, indeed, have been an emotional episode that his family was aware of? Then they thought he got better, but IRL, untreated, he ended in a tragic situation.
2) More likely, the same happened, but later. His then-friends noticed signs and, whether not understanding or fearing unpredictability, marginalized him. I am just thinking aloud. Not about the act…just what was going on with Luigi. He definitely didn’t lose his academic potential, he read a lot, he expressed himself well, but am I wrong in noticing some lack of emotional growth? He should have caught up after graduation and moving out, but the opposite happened. Why?