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The connection I make is home life was chaotic. Which is somewhat verified by mbm stating she often felt overwhelmed. DM also gives us insight into mbm feeling overwhelmed.
None of us are perfect and at times will leave dirty dishes in the sink , laundry waiting to be dried or put away . This scenario is part of modern busy lives where both parents are working full time , kids in club and the running of the home can make the most energetic of us tired and having to prioritise needs over wants .
But both parents were basically stay at home parents with DM only working one day per week , they were young and not in any physical ill health that we know of , so the bigger deal is what prevented a set of pj's being pulled from the bag , was it prioritising something else ? Was it mental health ? Or was it a case of the unpacked laundry being an indicator of the circumstances surrounding the disappearance. I think this is the point others are making![]()
I agree. Being overwhelmed may be the reason the children were left on their own in the morning. It also could be the reason why they weren’t sent off to school, especially if they were not eager to go, which could be the case if they were challenged in keeping up with other children in their classes. It can be a situation where the children ‘call the shots’ in order to avoid the child having a temper tantrum, which I sort of gathered by DM saying they wouldn’t listen to MBM.
But I’m not sure that the children going to bed in their clothes is an indication of anything other than the way it is with strong willed children. For whatever reason, never did figure it out, my grandson hated putting on his pjs and sometimes it was just not worth the fight after he tucked himself into bed with blankets up to his chin. I suspected it was because he didn’t like getting up in the morning and he saved time by not having to get dressed. He would’ve wore the same clothes all week if he had his way.
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