I find it to be heartbreaking. To be clear, I refer to the "he doesn't look American" types of comments. Americans do not have any ethnic look. We are every color and ethnicity.
Now, some people do refer to possible ethnicity, and that's just a way of trying to narrow down who this person is. I personally don't find it that useful, but it might be.
Now, culturally, we do have some mannerisms..That's a messy thing in a country so huge and diverse, but I'm thinking of WWII when American spies had to be taught to stop leaning on things - the casual American "lean" was a big identifier. Sometimes you'll hear Europeans say they can identify an American by their constant smiling or the way they walk. The opposite can be true, too. Sometimes you can identify a non-American by mannerisms. These things are broadly interesting culturally, but are useless for identifying a single person in an incredibly diverse culture, in perhaps the most diverse city on the planet.
Still catching up, but want to say how true this statement is and it’s what I’ve been thinking.



to the great posts I’ve missed.
Yes, America and in particular a city like NY has people from everywhere. The well-known melting pot.
I had three grandparents who came from Russia and Poland in the early part of the 20th century. Once they became citizens, they were Americans. One grandfather was born in NYC, (as were my parents and all the rest of us).
However, even though they came to NYC as teenagers, they never lost their accents.
Even today, I say this because it’s true...we have every ethnic group and if they are citizens, they are Americans now.
That does NOT however, mean it’s difficult to discern if someone is foreign born.
It's kind of the same way we can spot a tourist immediately (and not just because they are looking up at the buildings).
My neighborhood has had an enormous influx of immigrants from a certain region over the past 30 or so years. They are now Americans.
Yet there are cultural differences, at least if they arrived here when they weren’t little children.
They have a different walk…you can tell from behind where they are from. They stand more closely to you than a native New Yorker would do. They cross the streets differently than a native New Yorker.
I am not trying to demean or denigrate anyone. If I were an ex-pat in another country, they would know that about me, too.
I don’t care about who is from where, but determining this man’s possible ethnic background is just another identifier.
Right now I can’t tell if he is foreign born or just another ethnic New Yorker, like most of us are, because I didn’t see enough of his walk or his stance when talking.
I do think his jog away from the crime scene was like a New Yorker would cross, but I just can’t tell.
Also I agree that if anyone was flirting at the hostel desk, it was the female clerk. She probably has had to deal with her fair share of recalcitrant guests and has honed her skills in how to deal with that. To my mind the suspect threw in a charming grin to ameliorate any sign of being a threatening customer.
JMO and JME.